I hate the way it sounds, because in so many areas of our lives, he’s kind and attentive to me. What’s been making me sad these days is in my 8 months of pregnancy, I’ve been asking for back massages and he always tells me he’ll do it when we go to bed. The time comes and he’s either too tired or gives me a half-hearted rub, nothing that really relieves my lower back pain (happened twice in 8 months).

I’m tearing up while writing this because I don’t know how else to approach the subject. I ask, I get brushed off or promised one, but they don’t happen. I tell him I just need his attention and care (I’m 8 months pregnant, dang it!) and he tells me he’ll work on it.

I understand where he’s coming from too. He works a physical job and he’s physically exhausted. So on the flip side, I give him massages when he’s sore and I don’t complain?

I need a little TLC these days and I can’t get my message across right. He’s gaming right now while I’m in bed expecting a massage he promised that I know won’t happen. Has anybody got any tips for me? 🥺