My husband has been known to throw away my things (things I’ve bought with my own money/am the only one who uses) many times without asking. He’s thrown away pregnancy tests, ovulation tests, our only key to our bedroom door (that we just installed), teas my mom gave me, pots and pans (he said we needed new ones 🥲), and so many more things. It’s getting incredibly frustrating. I’ve asked him to ASK before throwing things away since he threw away my pans almost TWO YEARS AGO without asking. I have a corner of the bathroom that I put all my period/FAM stuff, he claims he thought it was trash and tossed my HPT and OPKs. 😖 The boxes were full!! I dropped a key on the floor when I was cleaning, with the intention to pick it up when I put things down and forgot about it because I have ADHD. This man threw it away!!

I’ve resorted to labeling the trash can “do not throw my things away without asking first”.

It’s just hard for me to believe that he forgets/doesn’t feel the heavy box/doesn’t check to see if something is full/doesn’t know EVERY TIME! This happens 1-2 times a month which may not sound like a lot but what about all my stuff 😭😭😭?!

Update: Y’all are right, unfortunately. He doesn’t respect me. Every time I try to have a discussion with him (when we’re arguing or disagreeing) he gets defensive, disagrees with everything I’m saying/tries to prove me wrong, and I have to pry responses out of him. I’m tired of being the only one who tries in my marriage. I’ve told him I am seriously considering divorce because I often feel dismissed and disrespected by him, yet he still behaves the same way. Our relationship has never been good. I’ve been putting up a front with everyone because we got married young and I feel like I have something to prove. I don’t know what to do. I don’t ~really~ “believe” in divorce (unless in cases of abuse, abandonment, or adultery) since I’m Christian. Most of the time now things are good, we’ve dealt with serious issues in the past because we both had unhealed trauma. It’s just that he acts so dumb by doing things like throwing away my stuff, claiming to never remember things I’ve asked him not to do (he always respects my consent btw in case anyone thought of this), disrespecting me by dismissing me in conversations, refusing to even have adult conversations with me, etc. I’ve called him childish before because that’s who he is. What would y’all do?