So i just had a baby in September. It was VERY traumatic and we lived in the hospital for two months because of serious complications I had with my health and then major birth trauma and a NICU stay (me and baby nearly didn’t make it). it’s taken a huge toll on both of us. I have ongoing medical issues. Baby is ok now and I’m still healing, 9 weeks pp.

my husband scheduled a vasectomy for December and I have expressed how I know maybe it’s stupid to consider ever putting myself through another pregnancy after how bad this went, but that we always planned for two kids and it’s hard for me to accept that it will never happen. In my heart I have not been 100% sure I wanted to close the door to the possibility in the future like a few years from now maybe, but he was certain he never wanted to go through this again so he scheduled the vasectomy.

Anyhow, I have been telling him I thought my cycle might be coming back and that I wasn’t sure if I had ovulated yet but thought my period would come back soon. AND then we had sex for the first time today since having the baby, and even though in prior conversations we talked about at the very least pulling out and using a condom before the vasectomy, he was the one who initiated sex and he just came inside me without discussing it first. I assumed he would pull out or just stop before he was close and finished another way (yes I know this is a piss poor way to prevent pregnancy but there we have it). I am in NO way ready to carry another baby yet after the medical complications im still healing from, and he was TOTALLY adamant he wanted no more kids. I know I am responsible for engaging in sex, but what I don’t get is my husbands choices. He supposedly never wants another kid but cums inside me when he knows it’s possible my cycle is coming back. Is he just thinking with his penis or y’all think he actually doesn’t mind the idea of another kid?