Thank you all for your comments. I did not expect everyone to say I should not- some but not all.

Reading it back to myself, I guess it does sound ridiculous, but if you were there, you may understand where I came from. I still think that it is extremely odd her son does not want to go home. My daughter loves school but always wants to come home so I guess it is just shocking to me. None the less, I will not be contacting cps. I am sure the teachers are more aware than I am and I know they are mandated reporters.

People, please do not bash me.

TRIGGER WARNING-

I live very close by to where Thomas valva lived. I am sure you all know about this case, but the community is still hurting. Everyone is looking out for everyone’s kid. I do find myself frequently wondering if everything is ok because you just never know. You really really don’t. I have been a bit on edge so I hope people can take that into consideration. There is a reason why I am the way I am.

But I digress. I will not call CPS

Disclaimer- I know this is anon, and will likely be moved but I need to keep my identity secret. Also, I know there’s a few ladies in this group who work with young children and in this field so can give me the best advice . Truly appreciate advice

Tell me what you think

My daughter goes to preschool and there’s this little boy in her class and I suspect he could be abused by his mom

For starters he’s very small. He’s thin and a little short. He is the smallest kid in the class. Him being thin raised the first red flag.

The biggest red flag is the fact that sometimes when his mom picks him up, he doesn’t want to leave. We all wait on pickup line and when it’s her turn, there’s been about 3 occasions where he said he wanted to stay in school.

That to me is alarming, because my daughter always wants to come home, no matter how much fun school is. For him to want to stay at school makes me feel like he feels unsafe at home.

I know it’s not the father that is abusing the child because on two occasions when he didn’t want to go home, she said “come on, let’s go see daddy, daddies home!” And he came running out, so I know the kid feels safe with the dad.

The mother- I don’t know her well. She’s one of those overly happy chipper people so she doesn’t “look abusive” but you never know, could be an act. She is also one of the class moms. I believe she volunteered to be a class mom to be more involved in the classroom to cover up any abuse. Her makeup and hair is always done, so she seems very vain.

The whole not wanting to go home thing is really screaming red flags to me. My daughter is always happy to see me for pick up.

I feel like maybe I am reading in too much, but what if I’m not? If I call cps they investigate and if there’s no abuse, great. If there is abuse, I saved his life.

Would you call based on these flags? What other sighs could I look for? Should I speak to the teacher, see if they noticed anything? Or just voice my concerns to the teacher?