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“Hi, Cps, this is Karen. I want to report a parent, her kid is thin and her makeup is done so she’s obviously too busy contouring her face to feed her child”
Possible abuse…. Cps worthy? Update
Thank you all for your comments. I did not expect everyone to say I should not- some but not all.
Reading it back to myself, I guess it does sound ridiculous, but if you were there, you may understand where I came from. I still think that it is extremely odd her son does not want to go home. My daughter loves school but always wants to come home so I guess it is just shocking to me. None the less, I will not be contacting cps. I am sure the teachers are more aware than I am and I know they are mandated reporters.
People, please do not bash me.
TRIGGER WARNING-
I live very close by to where Thomas valva lived. I am sure you all know about this case, but the community is still hurting. Everyone is looking out for everyone’s kid. I do find myself frequently wondering if everything is ok because you just never know. You really really don’t. I have been a bit on edge so I hope people can take that into consideration. There is a reason why I am the way I am.
But I digress. I will not call CPS
Disclaimer- I know this is anon, and will likely be moved but I need to keep my identity secret. Also, I know there’s a few ladies in this group who work with young children and in this field so can give me the best advice . Truly appreciate advice
Tell me what you think
My daughter goes to preschool and there’s this little boy in her class and I suspect he could be abused by his mom
For starters he’s very small. He’s thin and a little short. He is the smallest kid in the class. Him being thin raised the first red flag.
The biggest red flag is the fact that sometimes when his mom picks him up, he doesn’t want to leave. We all wait on pickup line and when it’s her turn, there’s been about 3 occasions where he said he wanted to stay in school.
That to me is alarming, because my daughter always wants to come home, no matter how much fun school is. For him to want to stay at school makes me feel like he feels unsafe at home.
I know it’s not the father that is abusing the child because on two occasions when he didn’t want to go home, she said “come on, let’s go see daddy, daddies home!” And he came running out, so I know the kid feels safe with the dad.
The mother- I don’t know her well. She’s one of those overly happy chipper people so she doesn’t “look abusive” but you never know, could be an act. She is also one of the class moms. I believe she volunteered to be a class mom to be more involved in the classroom to cover up any abuse. Her makeup and hair is always done, so she seems very vain.
The whole not wanting to go home thing is really screaming red flags to me. My daughter is always happy to see me for pick up.
I feel like maybe I am reading in too much, but what if I’m not? If I call cps they investigate and if there’s no abuse, great. If there is abuse, I saved his life.
Would you call based on these flags? What other sighs could I look for? Should I speak to the teacher, see if they noticed anything? Or just voice my concerns to the teacher?
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Wow. No offense but this is one of the silliest things I’ve ever read. First of all - he’s small? Okay? He could have a medical condition you know nothing about. He could have been premature. He could have dietary restrictions. It could simply be genetic. My son is the smallest boy in his class and he eats like a horse. He was born at 5lbs. Second of all, he wants to stay at school? Okay again? Lots of kids love school and love socializing. I used to be both an elementary school teacher and I was director of a daycare. This is common. My son loves going to school and playing “centers” with his bestie. He also loves his teacher. You really need a High Dose of Mind Ya Damn Business and realize 1) kids come in all shapes and sizes and 2) a kid LIKING school is not a bad thing. Jesus.
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I take it back when I said no offense. I mean HIGH OFFENSE. What is wrong with you.
Absolutely not. Some kids are thin and small. I’m thrilled to hear YOUR child is always pumped to go home, but my first born had her days where she did NOT want to leave daycare. She loved it there. She was not abused. Registered daycares are required to report any suspicious situations. Leave it to the professionals if this is all you’ve got, and stop comparing other children to yours.
You’re being weird and you need to mind your business. CPS is not going to do anything because that child is small and likes being at school. My daughter loves going to daycare and cries when we come to pick her up because she’s social and has a lot of fun. You need to find a hobby beyond hating that mom for whatever petty reason you think you have to hate her.
Ok, so it’s good you’re willing to call about abuse if you see it. Not everyone is. There’s not enough here to investigate though. Being a little small and thin, liking Dad more, wanting to stay at school, all totally normal. People often mistakenly believe you need to provide proof to make a report, and that isn’t correct. I don’t want to reinforce that belief, but CPS can still decline to even check things out if there’s nothing that’s even a real red flag being described. A bad vibe simply is not enough. Sometimes we don’t like someone and it takes a little introspection to figure out why. The way you’re describing her makeup and chipper personality makes me wonder if you don’t have a little subconscious dislike for that personality type? Maybe a little jealousy even if she’s always more put together than you feel? Spending some time deconstructing that might change how you view the situation. On the flip side, sometimes you get an off feeling about a person, and all the self analysis in the world can’t explain why. I generally think listening to your gut is good in those cases. If you ever see actual abuse/neglect like the child being hit, or saying he has no food at home, by all means don’t hesitate to call.
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This is an awesome explanation!
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Perfect response. I couldnt get passed the small details to give an insightful response. Its wild to me that a mom being put together is something so many people, not just OP, really look down on. Also a thing kid? I can see my sons ribs and his dr always tells me hes overweight.
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YES. There’s some underlying reason OP is fixated on this family. I think you hit the nail on the head.
Yikes, I'm glad nobody called CPS on me for my kids being skinny when they were that young! Who cares what his size and height is. Him not wanting to go home a few times doesn't mean anything either. You have this whole ass story made up of why she's abusing him and playing this whole act... Mind your own business. Seriously. You're making something out of NOTHING.
You are 100% wrong. I have twins. They’ve always rail thin and small and have always eaten like animals. They’re still very thin as older teens and it ain’t because they’re being starved. It’s just the way they’re built. They were also premature and teeny. I worked in child care for years. Children like to play with their friend and school toys. Some days they want to stay and others go home. You need to mind your business. Your post seems overly judgmental and highly speculative.
You’re making an awful lot of assumptions here & sound very judgmental of the mother. Nothing here makes me suspect abuse. You do realize the growth charts are based of a bell curve, so that means someone has to be on each end. The fact that he’s smaller means nothing because he could be following his growth curve at a lower percentile. Some kids don’t want to go home because they have so much fun at school. I’m a mandated reporter and I would absolutely not be calling for this ridiculous assumption.
Jesus Christ what the hell is wrong with you. You’re an absolute idiot. You have no idea about that kids medical history or if he’s just small. My kid doesn’t want to leave school either sometimes because it’s FUN & knows he’s coming home to homework, chores, & showering. People like you do nothing but waste the system’s time
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