Self Help Tips For Forgiveness?

Question

If you don't believe in forgiveness, enjoy holding a grudge, or easily move on from things this post is not for you.
How have you forgiven people who have hurt you IRREVOCABLY? What steps have you taken? I know I can forgive and that time heals but is there a way to speed up the process? Lol. This is not about a spouse or someone super close if that matters.

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It’s always a work in progress that you must work￼ on daily. We get very attached to the energy of being angry or resentful at them. There’s something I like to say whenever I have a negative thought about a person who holds space in my mind. I say, “(name of person), I forgive you and I release you and in doing so, we are both free.” I say that five times every time I have a negative thought about the person. If you work on that every day, you will eventually begin to release the attachment you have to the emotions that person causes you. And then forgiveness won’t seem so difficult. You must also realize that forgiveness is for you, not for them. Sometimes it’s hard to forgive, because we think we’re giving the one who hurt us￼ some kind of gift or reward if we do… No. When we forgive, it’s a gift to ourselves for our own peace. ￼

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I forgive myself for not being able to forgive them. My feelings are 100% valid and I just can not forgive this person. Instead of dwelling on it and trying to figure out how to forgive them, I’ve just had to accept I can’t, and for that I forgive myself. I am at peace with it and have let it go. i hope this person finds what it is they are looking for and that they are able to forgive themselves for their actions.

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I really don’t think forgiveness is something that can be rushed, especially after a major hurt was experienced. I know what has helped me is reminding myself to love the person from afar and that l need forgiveness to occur so that my own mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health isn’t negatively impacted.

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I differentiate between forgiveness and thinking the behavior was okay, because they are 2 different things. I try to acknowledge that their behavior came from their own trauma, struggles, demons, resentments etc and really wasnt about ME, it was about them and where they were at, we are all human, therefore I can release myself from that because it was about them not me, and deal with any pain on my end separately. But it doesnt make their behavior okay, and it also doesnt mean I have to allow that person back in to my life.

Self Help Tips For Forgiveness?

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