I’ve been having these thoughts for a minute now and I would rlly appreciate feedback from WOMEN and not my boyfriend lmfao.

So I’ve been together with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, and we’ve been long distance for a majority of that time. He goes to school abt 5hrs away, so i’ll see him a few months out of the semester and through summer of course. Every time he comes back into town, sex seems to be the first thing on his mind… this seems normal to me because men are animals and i expect nothing less lol, but i never have the sex drive to satisfy him? I’ll put out once because I miss him and enjoy being intimate, but that’s all I can handle for days. Idk what it is, I just don’t want or need sex. I am attracted to him and I love making out, being close, but as I’ve grown into a young adult my sex drive just hit the floor.

I’ve been trying to connect the dots, only because I feel like I exhausted my sex drive while being a teenager, after sleeping with people, pregnancy scares, and being r*ped, I just haven’t felt the desire to have sex all the time… and I feel ok with that.

On the other hand, I do feel bad because I know that makes my bf unhappy bc he wants to have sex so frequently and I just don’t have the energy or desire to.. I enjoy quality time with each-other and other things that are more significant than sex.

I’ve been on the same birth control since I was 16 and have never had an issue with my sex drive until like a year ago. I just don’t know what to do because I’m not sure if somethings wrong, if i’m just asexual now, or literally anything idk… i just don’t want my boyfriend to be unhappy but I also want to be respected… idk pls give me input i have been going crazy.