I’m a single mom to an almost four year old daughter. Her father has been fully out of the picture since she was less than a year old. No contact whatsoever. I left with my daughter because he was cheating and using drugs behind my back. We left when I found out. He made very minimal effort and walked away for good shortly after. I maintained a pretty good relationship with his family after everything happened. His mother and I were on great terms and spoke frequently. A few months ago, we were texting and it seemed like she was blaming me for my ex walking away. Since then, things have been a little tense and we haven’t spoken much (she’s stopped texting as frequently, but I still respond when she texts me). It’s still friendly enough when we do talk.

So to today. I was talking to my dad and he told me I should reach out to my ex and give him another shot to be in my daughter’s life. I’m not comfortable with that. I begged him for months to step up and get his life together for our daughter. I would text him and call him and beg him to see her, call her, anything. I never put him on child support because he told me he wouldn’t come around anymore if I did. I did everything in my power to keep him in my daughter’s life. My dad told me he disagreed with my decision but he would leave it alone.

About an hour later he calls to tell me he just got off the phone with my ex’s mom. He said he was just going through his contacts and deleting numbers and he wanted to see if that number still worked, which I think is ridiculous because he could have just asked me. He doesn’t even need her number regardless. I have no clue what was said during this phone call. I told my dad that it was completely disrespectful and that he shouldn’t have done it and he blew up on me saying he could call whoever he wanted and that it was none of my business.

I’m extremely close with my dad and I love him to death, but I’m pissed. Not that I have anything against my ex’s mom. She’s always been good to me and we’ve never had any major issues. I just feel like my dad intentionally went behind my back after the conversation we had.

Am I overreacting or is he in the wrong?