@Lolloh they’re Russian

Another edit - we see my in laws almost every weekend (and have multiple meals together)

Edit - I asked a friend about how to get my MIL to realize she’s now ‘grandma’ and not my sons mom, and she said she treats me like a child bc I act like one. Lmao. By letting her cook everything for us and stuff. That’s where I got that idea from

My MIL is one of those older ladies who thinks she is a ‘master chef’. The food she cooks is very good but she is very uppity about it.

- asked me how I cooked some meatballs that I meal prepped for myself postpartum and was proud of, I told her, and she laughed and said she’d teach me how to make ‘good meatballs’

- took out food that I had cooked from my fridge and re-cooked it with different spices and stuff and told me it’s ‘for my husband’

- we went on a family trip with her and I pre-made a cucumber/tomato salad. I pre-made it bc I don’t like cooking in the kitchen with her. Later that day she asked my husband why I always pre-make food I bring bc it’s always soggy (it’s not)

- one time I thought it’d be nice to cook together in my house. I printed a recipe for pasta salad and we followed it together and cooked it and had it with dinner. The next day she called my husband and gave him instructions on how to ‘fix it’ (we didn’t fix it, it was fine)

My concern is that she always brings food for the whole family when they visit us. It was very nice at first but now that my husband and I are married with a baby it makes me feel like a child so I want to start cooking for the family when they visit, so they’re more like guests and not hosting themselves in my house. Because her ‘mom’ behavior is getting into everything else and she’s starting to try and tell me how to parent my baby, as though she knows best. (She doesn’t, my husband had lots of issues to work through)

I know they’ll complain about my cooking. I’m also American and they’re from somewhere else and consider American cooking and food to be gross, basically. I cook healthy things, it’s not burgers and fries, but they still look down on it. But my feeling is that if they don’t want to eat my food, don’t come. Thoughts?