So my partner and I are having a shared financial account.

We're together for 8 years.

After years of begging and charts and visuals etc about our expenses (his expenses) I decided this summer to get my own seperate account. (We both work fulltime, though I went to work halftime to take full time care of our child).

He received the card of my new account.

It was a huge wake up call to him. He said some really weird things like him not wanting me to have my own money so I can't leave him if I want to. Like him feeling cheated and like I'm stealing money from our household.

I am now changing back to a full-time job as our child will be in school soon. My partner doesn't want me to use my new account. I have told him that I will and he told me that he doesn't want me to. He thinks by telling me this that I wouldn't or shouldn't. He's not even considering that I would have my paycheck paid to it even though I have literally told him.

I want to pay my share. I want to pay for half of everything except for allowance for his kids (He's got 3 teens with his ex) payments to his ex, child support, loans that he took before we met (loans he's paying of to his ex-parents-in-law) Which I think is very generous because obviously his 3 big teens use everything in our house as well. I think that's very reasonable, I've been his shoulder to lean on financially for 8 years and it's time for him to be financially independent, he's 44.

His paycheck should be sufficient to pay for his part of the bill as he's making about 500€ more than me per month.