My husband told me that I am a rude abusive person and that abuse him all the time. Now let me explain the events that happened the day of that led to that being said;

Earlier this week my alarm went off an hour later, I also get up at 6:15am on this day my alarm went off at 7:15am (which I feel like he did because he made a comment about wanting to sleep in on his day off). When I realized what time it was I pretty much jumped out of bed turned on the coffee maker, went to the bathroom and started to feed the cats, while I was doing this he took the dog out then went into the washroom. I had asked him if he could be quick because I really needed to take a shower before work, he said yes he would.

5 minutes go past, then 6,7,8,9 and 10 finally I knock on the door with no answer so I knocked again, worried about him I opened the door and he was sitting in the side of the bathtub watching videos on Facebook, when I asked him what he was doing he told me he was deciding if he needed to use the washroom or not so I asked him if I could start my shower and I would leave the bathroom door unlocked so he could come in and use the washroom if need, he said fine and I started my shower. About half way through my shower the water went cold, when I came out from my shower he was running water in the kitchen sink unattended when I asked him about it he said he turned on the water to do dishes but then got distracted. Annoyed I started doing my makeup and getting dressed and at one point he came into the bedroom and asked if I could take the dog out I explained that I was trying to get ready for work and was already going to be late and that I did not have time so pissed off he walked away and took the dog out. When he came back in he went back into the washroom at this point I just needed to blow dry my hair and brush my teeth so I could leave for work and yet again he took 10+ minutes in the washroom, I asked him if he was feeling ok as it had been the second time that morning he had been in the washroom for a long period of time, he just snapped at me and said no. I blow dried my hair and started brushing my teeth while I was in the middle of it he stuck his finger in my ear! To which I flung around and smacked him asking what he was doing, he claims he was trying to poke me and that I moved. For the rest of the day he carried on upset with me claiming I had abused him. For the record yes I did smack him but not hard, I was more taken off guard than anything- no marks were left or anything. Am I abusive?