The title says it all, how do you deal with grandparents favouring one grandchild. My parents have 3 grandchildren, all boys, oldest and youngest are mine, middle is my brothers.

Our dad doesn’t favour or do much, he’s not a very affectionate person lol but my mom on the other hand is ALL about my nephew and is very open about it from day one.

Ex 1: my MIL had to throw me my baby shower because my mother wasn’t going to, the minute she found out my SIL was pregnant she calls me to tell me she’s throwing her a shower because “it’s such a special thing” and made a whole Facebook post about how she’s so proud of them but when I announced (planned pregnancy as an adult with a house) she said “we will figure it out” then left and went to go drinking because it was too much to process.

Ex 2: posts weekly pictures/videos of my nephews etc. only time my children are posted is on special occasions, in a collage of three photos, my 2 kids being the smallest photos, my nephew being the largest. This only bugs me because I’ve had people mention it to me, saying how she must not enjoy my children, which was quite embarrassing

Ex 3: my 3yr old brought over two toys to her house over thanksgiving, he handed them to my mom to show her and when he asked for them back, she wouldn’t give them to him because she was using them to try and convince my nephew to come see her. Then gave my nephew said toys and when I brought it up because my son was upset that she gave BOTH of his toys away, I was “causing a scene and being a child”

The list goes on and on. My brother and SIL see no problem, of course they don’t, it’s their child getting special treatment. I just don’t know how to go about it anymore. Honestly it’s upsetting me more then the kids at this point because they are little, but when she upset my son on thanksgiving it was the last straw.