I am refusing to take family pictures with my husband side of the family and my husband is mad at me.

Background story. In August my MIL schedule a picture day at the beach during their family vacation in September. I was okay with it. They wanted everyone to wear only neutral colors. I stressed soo much trying to get my family of 5 to match with their rules of neutral colors, no patterns, semi casual, etc. I bought the kiddos (3, 2, and a 3 month old baby) and husband clothes. And even had to get my dress tailored. The day before the pictures they decided to cancel because his mom and 3 sisters were “not in the mood”

I was pissed because I stressed so much and spent money for clothes that was not needed. I did not show it to them and was like okay whatever.

A month ago his mom text us wanting to do pictures again this December. Again, neutral colors, no pattern etc. Obviously I can’t wear the same thing that I previously bought because of change of weather and it does not fit my baby.

I was like okay fine. I told my husband if they canceled I was not going to do this for third time. It was too much stress on me and time consuming for nothing.

Monday his mom sent out a text to everyone (her 4 kids and significant others that pictures were canceled AGAIN. My husband called her but she did not answer. He texted her and asked why. She said that what her and MFL decided.

Two of his sisters don’t have kids and 1 of them has a 5 month old baby so I’m guessing they don’t know how difficult it is for me to plan everyone’s outfit.

My husband called MFL on Tuesday and asked him why pictures we’re randomly canceled again. He said because the girls were not interested on doing it.

Today his sister texts my husband asking exactly when we were going to come up to visit in the spring because they wanted to schedule pictures AGAIN (they live 8 hours away). My husband tried to explain that is not easy for us to be cancelling this stuff last minute but my SIL is responding with passion aggression. Such as “oh I did not realize how much of a big deal this is for y’all so nevermind” he told her he still wants to do it but got mad at me for not wanting to be part of it anymore. Am I wrong?