Caught feelings 😬

I’ve always been in a committed relationship however after 4 failed relationship I decided I just wanted a fk buddy which was going great to begin with now this person an I party at the same spots on the weekends. My friends know him so they would tell me oh look he’s talking to other girls etc, he’s has a story going around that’s he’s desperate and rape girls etc I confronted him bout it an it wasn’t true. These accusations and stories caused tension between us in a sense that when I’m being told of it I be drinking so I take it out on the liquor and argue with him. Recently a friend of his that I V know went to grind/dance up on him and that got me upset so obviously I argue with him and he basically told me that this fk buddy thing isn’t for me cause I caught feeling and that with liquor wasn’t working out. After some back n forth I let him go and told him we can be friends it’s ok I’ll be fine. He had something to talk to me about in person and insisted we meet so I told him to come over to my house and we’ll talk. Well he did just that however when it was time for him to leave I got up from the couch an was about to go open the door when he just came to hug me and proceeded to kiss me etc well we fk and his remark was this is why I didn’t want to come like I don’t get it he insisted. Anyways we talked a little after and that’s it haven’t heard from him ever since. Do you think he may of had some feelings as well? Or that’s just wishful thinking? Part of me is hurt cause I got to know him genuinely and caught feelings 😔

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Me

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I didn’t read past the rape allegations. I just can’t associate myself with a man that’s been accused of that. And I’m confused on why he wouldn’t say no they’re false? Who would admit to that

G.

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I don’t think he had feelings, because he would’ve respected you, and not been messing with other people. Although you weren’t together as a couple in an exclusive relationship, and he had every right to mess with other people, technically, it clearly is not for you, whether you caught feelings or not. Unfortunately, you can’t control somebody who’s not in a relationship with you, you have no say, you have no opinion, how they live their life, at the same token you can’t really control, that’s free will. And when you try and control, somebody, they do the polar opposite just to piss you off in spite you. I think the last time that you had sex, I was just say goodbye sucks, I don’t think he had feelings, I don’t think he wanted the drama that can come with relationships which is why he didn’t want a relationship with you or anyone else. He gets to donas he pleases. Have sex with whom ever he chooses, kind of understandable why he prefers to be single. At the same token, you can’t go into a casual situation, expecting it to turn into more, or catch feelings, when they told you what it was from the beginning. Alcohol or no alcohol, he decided he didn’t want the drama that came with you. I don’t overthink it, don’t lose sleep over him, keep moving forward. Honestly, I wouldn’t talk to him at all because it’s just going to be like lemon juice on an open wound, especially seeing him with other people. I would distance yourself altogether from him.