**LONG POST**

I met my current partner at the end of July and we are still going steady but I’m ready to break up with him. Since we’ve been together we have only been on 3.5 dates ( the last date is .5 because he took me to the movies and fell asleep on my shoulder and slept the WHOLE movie) He told me that if I break up with him, then he will just be single for the rest of his life UNPROVOKED and I’m like why??? (Of course I got mad that he said that because it’s toxic #1, and I don’t know if he feels like he won’t find anyone else or if I am the only person he can get with) he said because “ain’t no love out here”. The first three dates were back to back but now he is giving me low maintenance vibes. I just moved back in with my parents a few months ago and ngl, I’m stressed as f trying to get back on my feet and I really just need someone to help me take my mind off of some things and make memories with ( not just dates, meaningful convos, taking classes together, working out together,etc) He’s not interested at all. I told him that once I find a better paying job, then I’m out of my people’s home/hometown and he got so mad and asked was he wasting his time, stated that he does not believe in long distance relationships, and did not want to talk to me for the rest of the night. I like to workout and I invited him to go to the gym with me four days before we were actually going and he says “ sorry Kelsey but no I’m not going. I don’t feel like it.” he always calls me the crazy and toxic one and I can admit that I do have some ways about myself that I am working on (everyone does lmao) but all he needs to worry about is if he wants to be with me or not. I can not express to him how I feel about things because I will either “hurt his feelings” or I personally feel like I’m being a nagger. I asked him earlier today at 2pm if he wanted me to come over tonight; tell me why it is 6pm and I am just now hearing from him (he got off of work at 3)????? It seems as though he doesn’t like me or care about me and I have said this maybe too many times before to him and the last time he got sooo mad at me that I have not said it since. So my question is…..Am I thinking right? I think it’s time to leave. I really don’t want to hurt his feelings or my own because I really care about him and think he’s a great man but my needs are not being met in this relationship AT ALL and I’m tired of communicating this. Or does this sound very badly selfish?