Im trying you guys to keep it together. I live 8+ hours from my family and my husbands parents live 10 mins away.

I have had issues with my MIL over stepping boundaries in the past jsut to name a few….. idk h

-such as walking in our bedroom while Im getting dressed(no knocking) more than once

-asking her to please not do my laundry(which may have sexy panties/bras/lingerie) So then she would go in our bedroom and sort my laundry from my husbands laundry, so she could just wash her sons laundry

-Telling me Im spoiling my baby holding it too much

-Inviting people to the hospital&house to see my baby without asking me or husband because…family is family.

-cleaning my house(even after I cleaned) and I ask her to please dont worry about cleaning anything while she babysits and she does it anyways. I mainly ask because I have OCD and germaphobe and prefer to do the things “the right way” to my liking.

We had a small argument a couple years ago and the cleaning issue came up. I explained to her that Im just really OCD about cleaning and prefer to do it myself and I appreciate her wanting to “help”. So she said fine and stopped cleaning when she watched my kids.

Things have been relatively well for a bit now.

Except the last 2 times she watched our kids she started cleaning again. Im frustrated because I don’t want her help, and I think she really has some audacity doing it, knowing we have had issues in the past about her cleaning. I feel like she is disrespecting my request for her not to clean.

My husband said he has my back but also doesn’t understand the issue, she is trying to help. So what? He said she just hates sitting here and has to do something when the kids are napping.

Im a SAHM with 3 under 4. Im the type that wants my whole house spotless for any visitors. I might have a couple dishes in the sick because we do live here but counters are sanitized, floors swept, carpet vacuumed, toys picked up, no clutter etc. you get the idea. I always tidy up before people visit but house is never a disaster and no pets. So when she cleans there really isnt anything to clean. But I told

my husband again, I just dont want her doing it and I think it’s disrespectful when I have asked to please not do something and someone does it anyways.

Am I crazy?