So my best friend turned into a bridezilla. It started with you'd ask her what she wanted, she'd tell you then she would change her mind, but then change it back to the original without telling me, but she would tell everyone else and I'd have to find out from her coworkers through my husband. I was the bride's Matron of Honor less than 24 hours ago... kinda.

She asked me in October to be her Matron of Honor, I accepted.

She asked me to go with to look at a venue, she told me she was still considering others so I look for her like she asked, but told everyone at her work she booked the first one wasting my time.

I went shopping with her for silk flowers for her bouquet on multiple days, and a month later at her dress fitting told everyone she was goint to get real flowers.

One of her bridesmaids couldn't make it to go bridal dress shopping on a day the briedmaid said clear to us before it was planned that she had to work. When she texted the group she couldn't make it after the bride booked an appointment the bride texted me "I think I'm going to have to pull the plug on one of my bridesmaids". Later she told me the girl left the wedding on her own, but I know that bridesmaid really wanted to be in her wedding.

I'm a photographer the groom doesn't believe in engagement photos, so the bride asked me to do there's (without pay) I told her I would but I had a limited schedule. I told her December 29th she took it as November 29th. Well the 28th I spent 5 hours out with her bridesmaid dress shopping and other wedding related thing. She talked about the winter storm coming the next day then told me what she wanted to do for her photos for that tomorrow. I was confused. I corrected her, then she asked if I had availability between then and the 5th even though earlier I told to earliest I had was the 29th of December. This is where I predicted I was going to get the axe too.

While dress shopping her bridesmaids were skinny shaming me. The bride and other bridesmaids are all size 18-24 and I'm a size 6. I told the bride later that I had been uncomfortable with the other bridesmaids behavior, not even a full 60 seconds later when I grabbed a dress in my size to try on she made a comment about how skinny I was, like she didn't even hear me.

Out dress shopping she tells me she hopes one of her bridesmaids, who has been trying to get pregnant for 2 years, doesn't get pregnant because, of the wedding.

On the 30th I was entirely too stressed planning a wedding for someone else, getting unclear instructions, a barrage of inspiration photos that were not even similar to one another so I sent this.

"So, I'd normally say it's appropriate to have this conversation in person or over the phone, but right now it's just best if I communicate this through text.

I have been really stressed since being involved in the wedding and I'm now in a place where I have to put strict boundaries on my involvement or back out and I really don't want to back out. I want to be there for you on your wedding day and all the big event in-between and after.

You and I are very different people (and thats okay) and the things that are important to us are very different from one another. Our differences though make it hard for me to keep my thoughts and the information you tell me about the wedding straight in my head.

I feel like your wedding doesn't have a clear style and it's very confusing to me to try to be involved with all the small details without the clear cohesive vision.

I just need you to be more clear with me and when you make a decision sticking with it and not trying to hide a decision from me because, I feel like that's happened quite a few times already and it makes all of it even more stressful because, I have to guess weather you mean something or not and to me your choices don't really matter because it's not my wedding. I promise my feeling won't be hurt! My purpose in life is to be a prudent wife and women, the glory of my husband, a kind person to others, a gentle mother and most importantly a servant to the lord and its becoming really hard for me to do these things with the other stressers.

I'm not really sure if any of this is making sense. I guess lastly I just can't really have the unclear ideas, negative wishes for other people around us, the ignoring of your future husband's wishes. I can't do that as your Matron of Honor. Clear answers are really important, if you can do that it makes it easier for me to read your decisions and move to the next task and eliminate stress for everyone."

She sent this:

"I'm sorry you feel that way. I thought being a part of our wedding would be a privilege of our friendship not an obligation I never wanted to come between our friendship and our relationships but if that's the way you feel I don't think that keeping this going with you being in the wedding is a smart decision being if it's already putting a toll on your family life and you feeling obligated to go against your beliefs or feelings by being a part of our special day is not my intention "

I told her I'd Honor any decision she made. She then ghosted me for 18 hours that only ended because, I called her. During the 18 hours she made passive-aggressive post online about God removing people from her life, and that God has plans foe her, and she texted my husband saying she was worried about me. He told her she'd have to talk me me and the she should call me. She responded okay I will, but never did.

On the phone call she told me she was avoiding me because she didn't want to say something that she regretted, and that the first text confused her and her text meant that she'd understand if I couldn't be in the wedding. More was said, but ultimately after I told her that I didnt feel like she was actually confused, but what I meant, but she did mean that I wasn't in the wedding anymore even though on the phone that day she said the opposite. I told her how hurt my feelings were about how she reacted to my request for boundaries and her ignoring me. Eventually I told her I couldn't be in her wedding and I didn't see us being friends anymore.

I guess I just want to get others opinions that I wasn't overreacting. I'm already confident that this is fr the best, but I just want to be able to hear it from other (but be honest) and I don't want to ask other friends (that know the bride) and say things that come off as negative to the bride.