I got up this morning, took my oldest to school and came back home.

My 2 toddlers were laying down 1 was asleep and the other was wake laying down barley moving and just squeezing a bottle, she’s not feeling well and had a fever so I got up up and gave her some fruit and Tylenol. My son was still asleep so I figured I’d lay on the bed with my daughter who was feeling sick. I ended up dozing off for like 15 minutes with her, and my son woke up and came and was trying to jump on the bed I said hey don’t do that sister isn’t feeling well, and she ended up getting up and my son layed down which I cuddled him for a minute cause my sick baby was okay with it for a minute. My boyfriend gets up and gets mad that I cuddled my son for literally 30 seconds and my son gets up and my daughter lays back down and my son got a little jealous. The little toddler bed wasn’t big enough for all of us but they both deserve my love and attention and cuddles in the morning. Well my son was screaming and I said what’s wrong ? My boyfriend was like “ mimicking me” whaaats wronnng “in a baby voice” “like I was dumb” than was like your the problem. Your the reason they act like this. “My boyfriend barely shows them any attention, I’m with the kids all day every single day and they want dad, but dads never around much so they cry for me” I took my kids to go see Christmas lights and he didn’t want to go because he said he didn’t want to go with me even though we’re supposed to be in a relationship and be together. It’s usually a no go when it’s me and the kids he doesn’t wanna do anything with any of us. He tends to only wanna do things with my son and his mom. And the 2 toddlers are both his kids. My oldest is not and he was the father figure but I’m finding that he doesn’t like my daughter. And I’m moving on. Ladies I been with this man 4 years. If you see red flags in the beginning and he tell you “time will tell, things will change, just focus on you,” just focus on you and move the hell on cause I stayed with him in this relationship he begged me for kids, and now he don’t even want them.

A man who tells you what to do with kids, verse actually doing things with the kids is a no!

My dude never wants to do anything, literally I’ll be in the toilet and he will be like are you gonna take care of the kids ? While he sits on his phone.

We will be sitting across from each other and the 1 year old grabbed 3 clothing items out the basket and he said “ you just gonna let her make a mess? “ while he was sitting right in front of me.

He used to make the excuse that he needed me to do everything so that if he isn’t around he can see that o can care for them without him. He’s never even helped with them.

If my son pooped his pants he would leave him in it until I changed it.

If the baby needed to be cleaned after eating and making a mess he would leave the baby in her high chair till I got home, or let her walk around with food all over her clothes and say, WHEN YOU GONNA BE HOME SHE NEEDS TO BE CLEANED.