Years back I became good friends with this girl. We were both SA when we were little so we would always give each other support. Would always talk about moving away from our hometowns together. So this year we finally moved to a new city together. Everything was going great till recently. I noticed she would randomly get annoyed by me even though I wasn’t doing anything. I’m never really home because I go to work, gym, and most of time I go to bed pretty early. When I’m in the kitchen cooking she looks mad and sometimes just sighs a lot. I never really took it personal till now. A week ago we both had plans to go out together with our friends so we started to get ready. As I was in the washroom getting ready she came crying to me. She told me she had to tell me everything she has said behind my back because she got into a fight with her ex. He was going to message me about it apparently. She didn’t really tell me details what she said but she told her ex that I was SA growing up. As well as I annoy her with “not taking out the garbage”. I found it really odd because I’ve been the one cleaning the place all the time. She also mentioned that she was mad that I went to go buy my own groceries. So that was the reason she divided the fridge with cardboard. Anyways he called her and she put him on speaker and he started telling me not to trust her. That she’s a bad friend and that I don’t know the real her. He started saying that “I got f**k by my stepdad” and that’s what she told him. When he said that my heart felt like it dropped. I was SA by my stepdad but I never told anybody the details about it. She started crying and apologized. I gave her a hug and told her that we just need to enjoy our night and leave what happened behind us. I noticed from that night on she started being more petty towards me. She uses my stuff but hid all her things from the kitchen/bathroom. She even now uses a separate garbage from me as well as recycling. I asked her if we could talk but now she started purposely avoiding me. She recently had her hook up stay over for a few nights and I could her again talking about how I annoy her. I just don’t know what to do or think. We have the same friends (mostly males) but they usually always do what she wants because they have a crush on her.

Every time our friends come over she’ll play victim. I haven’t mentioned to any of them on happened because I don’t want to start drama. I feel defeated and very lonely. I hate coming home every day because she just kills my happiness by doing something petty each time. Our lease isn’t done for another 8 months and she told me if I plan on moving out early I would own her, her deposit back. Which I can’t afford right now.