I(24f) met this guy(32) in early September on Bumble and we went on our first date. I really liked him because he was everything I was looking for physically and also intellectually, as he likes plays and reads and so on. Absolutely my type. He said he had gone out of a relationship a year earlier and had seen a therapist and done the work and was ready to date again. It was almost the same for me, expect for me it had been 2 years since my last relationship. We have great physical chemistry and always have a good time together but I realize that we only go on relatively high maintenance dates. I’m not complaining about them and I appreciate that he asks me out and plans it out but I just feel like for someone I have been seeing for 3 months, there is no real intimacy. We don’t go on coffee runs or anything of the likes, we don’t randomly hang out at his place even tho he lives 15 minutes away or so(I live with my grandparents so I can’t host). But the thing that has annoyed me the most is that we seem to have different communication style. I’d rather talk over the phone and apparently he’s a more in person kind of guy. Yes he does text me good morning and so but we maybe exchange 6-7 texts during the day and that’s it. He won’t even return a call if I called and missed him. He’ll just text. And we see each other maybe once a week. and lately we’ve ended the dates at his place having sex, which is the only time i go over. I just feel like little conversation has taken place and consequently intimacy is lacking. I just talked to him about it, essentially telling me that if he naturally doesn’t want to talk with me and get to know me more that says more than we may be willing to admit. I wanted to know if we are friends who go out and have sex or if we are progressing towards something. He said he maybe will be leaning towards a relationship a few months from now but that he’s not there yet, but that he’ll definitely be more intentional about us spending time together. The thing is I don’t even want a relationship now cause we don’t know each other enough and that’s the whole point. But I just feel like I shouldn’t even have had to ask, that it should have happened naturally. This feels forced. And I feel that maybe I should leave it alone and try to find someone I don’t have to ask several times to call me, because they will want to do naturally and not as a favor; or someone I won’t have to be anxious about asking them to come with me to target because it will feel natural. Can someone tell me if this is actually reasonable or if this is my anxiety talking?