This is the part of having a child I dreaded. When my husband grew up “Santa” brought everything and when I grew up “Santa” only brought us a few things. Us as a couple have already addressed how we will handle “Santa” in our own house but his parents have continued to not only sign our gifts, but our daughters gifts from “Santa”.

This year I intend to let it go knowing next year at almost 2 1/2 she may have a tad more of an understanding. But how do I address the matter going forward.

The problem is, I do not think it is fair to other family members (my side of the family) that she gets “Santa” gifts in our home and at my in laws. How do you eventually explain to a 5 year old curious about “Santa” why he brings gifts to her house and her poppy and grams house but not to the other grandparents houses. That’s just a disaster waiting to happen and I want to address the matter and hope they will change it sooner than later. I get that it’s a tradition they have, but I want to raise my daughter knowing that we all work hard to provided her with the things she gets.

Any suggestions on how to calmly address this and not make my in laws hate me more than they already do?