So I live about 8 hours from my best friend we dont see each other often but talk ALMOST daily on the phone. We are both SAHM with occasional part time jobs. We tell each other everything. TMI we tell it all. We are very close and share a lot of the same views with occasional minor differences in opinion.

We usually dont talk much on weekends and sometimes Tuesdays(her husband is off work). So we definitely have gone periods of not talking for a few days and rarely a week.

Just some context below

I know in the past she has cheated on her ex-husband. She is now remarried, and her and her husband have a “adventurous” sex life and they often have 3-some with his best friend. His best friend and my friend(his wife) often text and share pics, her husband has made it clear a few times he doesnt like that and he has been upset with his best friend for not wanting to hang out except when they want a 3-some. So little tension there. But they all continue to do things together. To each their own.

Now Thanksgiving came and I talked to her Wednesday the day before Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving day I sent a text saying Happy Thanksgiving and she replied. Black Friday she called but I was busy and couldnt talk, I texted and told her I was busy. Saturday I called since I was free and decided to see if she was too but no answer. No biggie. Following Monday, I called, no answer. Figured she was probably busy. Tuesday I didnt bother her. Wednesday came I called her no answer, I half jokingly commented on her fb page saying “Hey havent heard from you in a couple days! I miss youuu! Hope all is well!” No response. I called again that evening, no answer. I sent a private message, she didnt read it. I got on facebook and noticed she deleted her fb.

So then I started worrying something might be wrong. I made a fb status asking people if I should worry or not when my bff ghosted me and deleted her fb. People commented telling me to call the cops for a welfare check.

I sent her another private message and said “hey Im getting worried and may call the cops.”

She finally responded and said she was fine just been crazy busy. I was excited and said Omg youre alive ha! I was really starting to get worried. And I showed her a screenshot of my fb status.

I figured things were good and talked to her the next day on the phone. Thats when she told me she was really mad at me for freaking out about her, and my comment on her fb page caused other people to reach out to her and she was going to delete my comment but decided to delete her fb instead. She said when I showed her my fb status she felt I was calling her out and humiliated her. She said she isnt mad anymore but next time just reach out to her directly. She said she isnt mad anymore but was really upset and she didn’t understand what caused me to freak out. I said honestly I figured you were busy but when I hadnt heard from you and saw your fb was deleted thats when I started worrying. (I was also worried something happened with her husbands best friend since there have been some issues there). I also apologized a few times while we talked.

Anyways am I the a**hole? Ever since she told me how mad she was it rubbed me the wrong way and I never would have thought she would get mad about it. Idk 🤷‍♀️