My long term bf and I have been having some serious relationship issues recently. We decided to go to therapy to see if we could resolve it and things have been going well.

Admittedly, I have had a shorter tolerance for his mistakes after his large mistakes that ended us in therapy.

Fast forward to this week… I haven’t been truly sick in years. But what was originally thought to be a flu/stomach bug turned into a terribly painful kidney infection. I isolated myself to the guest room to keep all my sickness away.

Every time he has been sick I have gone to the store and gotten all his favorite fluids, foods to help get him better, cook soup from scratch, get all the meds, clean up after him, anything he needs.

First time I’m sick…. I can’t keep anything down. I asked if we could get any fluids other than water. It took him 48 hours to go to the store. I had asked for 2 specific drinks and 1 specific food. He drank one of my drink requests on the way home. Only got 1 bottle of the other drink request. And got the wrong food. The requests were pretty clear and hard to mess up. But I just said thank you.

I kept falling asleep because I felt so sick and he kept barging in yelling “wellness check” and every time it would startle me awake and make me vomit to the point I had to lock the door. Then the next day… I was finally ready to eat after 3 days of not. I asked him if he would mind grabbing the food that he had gotten for me and his response…… he already ate it.

To his credit, he did refill my water bottle 3x a day. It I am so disappointed in what feels like just lack of care/respect .

He doesn’t get it and says why can’t I just pick something else to eat. The point is I had asked for something specific since I was so sick and you took that from me?

The reason we are in therapy is because he doesn’t consider my feelings before he acts. And I feel like this just further exemplifies that.

He says I am just not feeling well and being extra dramatic….