So on Monday, we found out that my husband will not be able to be here for the birth of our last baby and I was upset so I called my mom to tell her the news and now she just thinks that she will be the one in the operating room with me but I don't know how to tell her. I don't want her in there without hurting her feelings.  I really would like my mother-in-law in there instead because we have a much closer relationship and my mom stresses me out. She lives in Florida and I am in Tennessee and she is wanting to be in the delivery room stay at the hospital with me and come hang out at my house a few weeks after he gets here we don't have the greatest relationship. It's not the worst one either though I just feel like I'm already gonna be stressed and I'm my husband not being there I do not need the stress of her being in there on top of it. What would you do?