I’m 36weeks today. I was a major preterm risk starting at 27weeks when I started contractions, so my husband’s company has let him work from home on limited salary to prioritize taking care of our two kids and helping with all the house stuff (probably all the things I was doing every day that was putting me into labor). Anyway, in the middle of the last two months of him being home he was promoted.. YAY! Promotion goes into effect once baby is born and he’s taken his leave.

The frustrating part: first of all, he’s already balancing his current role plus taking on parts of the new job. Second, he’s not getting paid extra to take on any of the new role yet, let alone taking on more than he should be while working from home. Third, he hasn’t even gotten the official write up of the promotion offer with his new pay. Finally, he just asked for the first time today if his new salary will be discussed soon so we can plan finances accordingly once baby has arrived. The response: “when you’re back working 100% we’ll discuss.” As if he isn’t on EVERY FREAKING CALL/EMAIL/MEETING ONLINE OR IN PERSON ALL DAY AND NIGHT already.

NOTHING about the last two months or the next two months has been predictable in ANY way. The preterm scare, every day worrying baby might come too early. Trying to pack a hospital bag with a NICU stay in mind. Trying to figure out who we’d call if I went into labor since we have no family, and that answer changes depending on who’s in town, if it’s morning or night, whatever.. trying to answer questions from family about when they should fly in. Finances have been weird with him being on limited pay and getting state pay to supplement. And then this promotion being technically a pay raise but actually a weekly pay cut with quarterly bonuses instead so it completely changes the way we will budget. Plus dont forget adding a THIRD baby to the mix and all the medical bills that go along with this complicated pregnancy.

It’s all been so stressful and I’m so irritated with the boss’ response today. Like it feels like we’re being punished for doing what the company offered us which is he gets to be home and prioritize us, even though ultimately he still prioritizes work and it’s been such a strain in our home.

Ugh okay end of rant. Thank you.