I LOVE my partner very much. He does a lot for our family and he’s everything i want in a man, except for one thing…THE SEX IS HORRIBLE. I try to teach him what i like. I’ve tried moaning when he’s doing something i enjoy or telling him “i like that” but no matter what it seems like he’s not paying attention to my ques during sex and he’s just “doing” sex to me. he’s very sloppy in bed to the point that i am disgusted/ repulsed. He throws his whole body on top of me and thrust really fast despite me saying multiple times that i don’t like that. He breathes heavily in my ear but is constantly sucking in boogers from his nose or sweating on my face. if he licks my nipples he leaves a lot of saliva on them or spits on my vag to “get it wet). he fingers me way to hard and fast even though i ask him to slow down. I don’t feel turned on during the act & it’s affecting our relationship. I’ve already talked with him about it and it only makes him feel insecure and sad that he’s not “doing good enough”. It could be my sexual trauma (been SA multiple times growing up) but i don’t think it is because i’ve enjoyed sex w other people in the past. HELP ANY ADVICE. just trying to see from outside of my own pov and hopefully get some insight that may help. ADVICE, TIPS, TRICKS, & CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK WELCOME!