Constant thoughts of wanting to cheat on my husband

Obviously I’m not going to do it. We haven’t had sex in 3 weeks and it’s always completely unsatisfying for me. I’m continuously having fantasies of being with other men, finding myself having little crushes on the men around me. Theres no passion in our relationship we’ve been together almost 9 years married 3 and I just feel like we have grown into different people. I know I should talk to him but it will do no good. He will just want to argue, call me names, blame everything on me so I would rather just continue feeling this way quietly. It goes away eventually but always comes back

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ma

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Why stay with someone it sounds like your incompatible with?

Su

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Is that how he always treats you when you need to discuss important matters?

bl

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Either work on it or leave.

Ri

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You guys need counseling. Having a marriage with someone who name calls makes you fantas about other men because you are needing love and intimacy. You lost the purpose of what a marriage is as a union of two people into one. I believe marriage is a spiritual union therefor divorce shouldn't be taken lightly so do everything you can to do right by eachother then figure out how to divorce.

Li

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If you do nothing, nothing will change or get better. This is why people need to have Christ in their marriage. A three strand string is not easily broken; husband, wife, plus Christ is what holds a marriage together. Seek God. Put him first your lives and marriage and things will completely turn around.

VH

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Sounds like your relationship is just over. It's ok to leave if you're not happy.

Ca

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Instead of talking to your partners getting counseling or getting a divorce you’d rather cheat? That’s messy. If you don’t want to put in any work as a couple, get a divorce.