So much pressure on me , is enjoying my life to much to ask?

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I'm 21 and just got married 6 months ago , my parents are putting a kot of pressure on me to get pregnant like if i can control it. It's so draining 
I'm trying to conceive but I'm scared that i don't want that and I'm doing it for them just so they stop talking. 
I'm literally gonna crazy rn. 
My cousin which is at the beginning of her 30's just got married a month ago and she's pregnant now the pressure is even more they are suffocating me. 
I stopped going to family gathering I don't want to see my parents I don't want to answer their calls cuz i know what's coming.

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As a woman, the minute you get married you are asked about when you are going to try and get pregnant or if you are trying or if you are pregnant. 
The minute you have a child, you will be asked if you are planning on anymore. 
Men do not get asked them questions.
Even when you have kids, if you are out without child at work or at a shop people will ask you were the child is. The man will never be asked where the kid is. 
Just the way of life.

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Hugs. Deep breaths. I'm jot sure your culture or faith and what the norm is for your family. However I think 21 and married is a lot at one time. Exhale. Enjoy this time with your husband. Relax. Stressing out and putting so much into having a baby will steal the joy you have to be present right now in your life. All of that will come with time. Best wishes.

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If you don’t want a baby, don’t have one. Don’t let people pressure you into having kids. Enjoy your 20s! You don’t get them back! Enjoy your marriage. It’s your body! You do what YOU want to do.

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Tell them to fuck off in nice way  it’s your life you do what you want to do if you don’t wants kids right now that’s fine have fun don’t let family make you do something you don’t want or just not ready yet they need to respect your wish and they really should talk about that and pressing you that’s so wrong

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I come from a religious and "get married and have kids" culture. Thankfully my parents had many kids and the excitement faded lol. I never got pushed into marriage or children but I did get the questions all the time after getting married "when will you get pregnant?." I got asked by literally all relatives and colleagues at work. No one knew we were battling infertility so it was like a dagger to the heart every time.
Just a rude question. No one should ask unless they ask permission to discuss it. 
I wish people would just mind their business.
With all that said, I had our first baby at 35. I am now asked all the time when is the 2nd one coming. 
I enjoyed my 20's with my husband and have zero regrets. Please enjoy your life. Just keep telling them "when the right time comes, it'll happen for us. For now we are happy."
Just be honest and tell them to stop asking. I eventually had to say that and when our IVF was successful my sister said "wow I thought you'd never have kids."

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Ignore the pressure. Not cool at all. I just had my first baby at 37, best decision ever to wait (for me). You will know when you are ready. Tell your parents to back off. It’s selfish to pressure your kids to give you grandkids knowing full well how HUGE of a life change it is to have a  baby. Your life isn’t yours anymore. Your priorities have to change. Your goals, dreams, wants, needs, are now replaced with baby as #1, not you. Wait until you are ready!! You have a LOT of time. You can wait 15+ years if you want to before having kids.

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You should choose to have a baby when you’re ready. Enjoy your partner kids can wait. Travel have fin with each other.

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I assume you’re Arab? I mean I’m assuming this based on your name. I know Arab culture because I grew up in a middle eastern country and I know how misogynistic the cultures are there. You got married very soon perhaps because of family pressure but DO NOT get pregnant now. You’ll be miserable because you are not ready and honestly these people see us women as children bearing machines. They aren’t going to stop. Once you have one they’re going to ask for the second one. Have a child when you’re physically and mentally ready.

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I love my daughter and am so happy to have her, but I was pregnant when I got married and wasn't able to go on our honeymoon because of complications. This all happened at 32 and even now I wish I was able to have some time alone with my husband before getting pregnant. Go, live your life how you want. I know it is tough and a lot of pressure but in the end, only you and your husband's opinions and desires matter. You will have plenty of time building your family. If enjoying married life is what you want now, then tell them you don't appreciate them asking whenever they do.

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Enjoying your life isnt too much to ask. If you wanna have kids that is only you and your partner choice. If you dont wanna have kids, once again, it is only you and your partners choice and business. If its really getting to you I would say something to your parents if you could.

So much pressure on me , is enjoying my life to much to ask?

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