Husband of 5 years cheated while I was pregnant with our daughter and got the other woman pregnant. I just learned about this a month ago. This woman lives in another country where he travels 1-2 times per year. My daughter is now almost one year old and has a great relationship with him. Divorce would force him to leave here immediately. I need him to help take care of my daughter as I finish my last year of my doctorate degree. When I found out he literally said “don’t act as if we are doing great.” Deep down I treat him as family and wouldn’t wish any harm on him… on the other hand, I hate him so so much for disrespecting me this much. I’m in therapy and learning that you can love someone and even coparent but not be married to them. He doesn’t want divorce and I know I have to engage the court to get it done. Right now, I honestly have zero energy to do it. I just feel sad that he will eat the food I cook, talk to me as if nothing has happened and still refer to our future plans as if we will be together. I feel like I’m too kind and nice. Mentally, I need to get out of this fuckery ASAP. Yeah, and there hasn’t been any intimacy since I gave birth. Now I know why he wasn’t even remotely i interested. And Importantly, I don’t want my daughter to grow up seeing me being disrespected this way. This man has a lot of trauma and abuse from childhood that he doesn’t want to deal with and how I wish I knew it before committing to him.