I was dating a coworker and he turned out to be… crazy. He admitted to being controlling, admitted to projecting, being narcissistic, etc., was verbally abusive… a lot of crazy shit. We broke up because he didn’t like that I asked why his ex had a restraining on him and now I know why. Because when we split, he threatened to message my family about my plans to hookup with someone and told me he did it in hopes of getting my baby and I kicked out of my mom’s home, threatened to publicly post my personal info, threatened to falsify police records “so that I’d be forced to see him” (his words). There was another coworker that he was insanely insecure over and tried really hard to force an end to that friendship, but I didn’t let him. However, the other day in particular, he went off making a bunch of threats and acting crazy. I tried to just stay friends so that he’d stop. (I’m dumb I know). But then the next day, I thought something was weird with my friend and he seemed really silent. He eventually tells me that someone has been calling his wife off a blocked number and telling her that I was his side piece, how his wife looked through his phone and didn’t like it. I’m assuming that she felt insecure about him having a close friend because he told me they had been having marital issues, but I stayed out of it and I know it’s not my business. We all worked together so I also made sure to tell her I would never betray her and told her that the calls are most likely my ex. But when I talked to her, she claims that all she told her husband was to be careful, which sounds a lot different than his version. And, not that I trust him, but when I tried to confront my ex, he swears that they’re lying and calls me crazy. And then said “I warned you this would happen but it wasn’t me”

I just don’t know what to think because it’s either my crazy ex really did try to pull some shit, which I’m guessing is most likely. But the thought that maybe she made it up to have a reason to look through his phone has been a crossing thought.