So my boyfriend and i have been friends for 5 years and we are officially together since July and I noticed that he doesn’t really make these big romantic moves for me, like getting me flowers for no occasion, or surprising me with chocolates or showing up at my house without saying anything, or even writing me letters like in the movies! I think he knows i’ve been dreaming of these and I’m absolutely sure that he knows I’m a huge romantic but he’s not really romantic. We don’t really go on dates, since we’ve been friends for a long time, but when we meet, we usually just stay at one’s house, watch a movie or just chill and have sex. This might be because it’s winter and it’s really cold outside but it also might be because we’re losing the spark. I really don’t know.

For the first month of being together, we spent it in Greece with his sister and his boyfriend. For the second month, i was away with my family so we couldn’t celebrate it, but on the third month, he got me a rose and a huge chocolate and we went to see a romantic movie. For the fourth month, i made him a heart shaped vinyl record out of cardboard and a playlist full of songs that reminds me of him but he told me he felt bad because he got me nothing. The fifth month was tricky because it was christmas (December 24th). I bought him a giant plush and a pretty expensive perfume. He got me a Ferrari hoodie, which is very thoughtful because my favorite team in formula one is Ferrari, plus I checked it on the internet, and it was pretty expensive too.

So the reason I wrote all this down is because I can’t figure out if i’m just being ungrateful for wanting more, or this is normal and I should shut up 😂

I also want to state that it’s my first long term relationship so I’m still learning how to be in it and how to care for him.

Oh and i almost forgot that when we’re spending the night at each other’s house, we always ask each other if we have some chocolate, mainly late at night, or after dinner, but because I noticed this, i started giving him chocolates when i stay at his house, so i think I deserve something similar from him too. I think this is a cute gesture from me and I would like to be surprised too.

Should I ask for it? If yes, how?