Edit- I told my husband to let them know they can come at 1pm, that I will make a soup and main meat dish and they can bring whatever sides they like and wine (we don’t drink so idk what to get). And that his grandmas are welcome to come. MIL said actually she has a cold (since Tuesday) so they’re probably not coming anymore. Thanks for letting us know? My sister is about to have a baby and if she has Covid during her labor then she will have to be alone (archaic rules I know) and I see her almost every day. So if we exposed her to Covid it will be a nightmare.

My in laws are Eastern European and they celebrate Christmas on a different day from most Americans (it’s a few weeks later). I’ve been with my husband for 6 years and every year I ask them which holiday is their main holiday / which one would they like to spend together (our Christmas/dec 25th, new years, or orthodox Christmas). And every year it’s some confusing runaround explanation about how well they celebrate all of them but this one is the main holiday. This year they said they wanted to spend dec 25th with us, but new years is their main holiday, but we also should see them on orthodox Christmas. So we had them over on Dec 25th. It was awkward because usually my MIL brings the meal (I’ve made meals for them and always suggest that I cook, but they don’t like my food so they bring their own… they’re extremely specific on what they like to eat and rip my food apart with criticisms so I sort of stopped trying) but this time she didn’t bring anything. So I was scrambling to cook a meal while they were here.

It’s always so annoyingly confusing to plan their visits bc I ask my husband what his parents are bringing so that I know what I need to prepare. He’s so politically correct with them and they’re the same way so neither of them actually asks each other. So most times I have to prepare a full meal and then see what MIL brought and leave my stuff in the fridge if she brought a meal.

So they’re coming over on Monday for what is supposedly their big holiday. I’ve been asking my husband to confirm 1- what time they’re coming, 2- if they’re bringing his 2 grandmas, and 3- if they’re bringing their own food. So this is potentially a major Christmas dinner for 7 people that I may or may not be expected to prepare and he hasn’t asked them any of these details. I ask him every day to just call them and figure it out. Holidays meals need to be planned in advance and I also just want to mentally prepare for this. When they visit, they’re usually here for 8 hours. They live 2 hours away so they need to make it ‘worth it’. Btw they speak another language (though they’re fluent in English too) and when they’re here they discuss my food in their language that I don’t speak and in general I just sit there not knowing what they’re talking about all day/night.

So it’s now Thursday and I’m so sleep deprived bc my baby is having a really hard time sleeping. I’m tempted to tell my husband that I’m just not participating in this holiday with his family. I’d like him to go visit his parents at their house and leave me home with our baby but his parents blatantly told him that they don’t care about seeing us anymore, they just want to see our baby. Would I be within my rights to just stay in my bedroom while they’re here saying I’m sick? Or avoiding this some other way?