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Gay or not, I would find it extremely weird if my partner had a friend he wouldn’t let me around.
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My bf has a gay friend who he talks to all the time and I don't care but I do find it weird that this friend tells him he loves him and that my bf doesn't like me coming over when said friend is down to visit.. Is that weird to anyone else?
Just so everyone knows I'm pansexual so I'm definitely not homophobic! I just don't understand why he doesn't like me coming around when he's down.
Yes I've asked him why and he never gives me a clear answer as to why.
Just an update.. I broke up with him last night. I went over to his house last night (I was going to the lake but decided to make a trip to his house so he didn't know I was coming over) I told him I was at his house and he texted me back why so I got out my car and he's like why you here and I was like I just decided to come over here and he's like Well my friend is coming over and I was like I thought you said he was coming over this weekend and he said well he decided to come over tonight (Thursday night) and I was like well we can hang out I didn't plan on staying and he said well I just wanted to hangout with him alone and I was like wtf is happening like why don't you want me around him and we got into an argument and he was trying to kiss me and tell me nothing is happening but y'all I just feel like something was definitely going on bc otherwise he wouldn't have lied about the weekend and me being around him would be fine so I went home (had my mental breakdown) and told him I'm not doing this bc it's weird I'm not aloud around his friend. Cried most the night and some this morning bc I really love him and I feel like maybe I'm on the wrong but then again I just think something fishy was happening. Trying to be strong.
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OMG to anyone saying this is homophobic, NO it's not. Being concerned that your boyfriend will not allow you around when any specific person is around is suspicious. WHY. He should definitely give you a very clear answer. Does his friend not like you? Is this the only friend you're not "allowed" to be around? Absolutely suspicious. Friends tell each other they love each other and that's great and I wouldn't think that's the issue at all.Telling your partner they can't be around when a specific person is coming over leaves the room for suspicious behavior open for lots of speculation.If he's having a romantic relationship with someone else, no matter if its a guy he's cheating and you need to know so you can break up with him. Or he could even be using his friend as an excuse and actually having someone else over and he thinks you wouldn't be suspicious if he lies and tells you it's a guy friend. If his friend just hates you and never wants you around that's also a huge issue because you shouldn't be with someone who hangs around people who don't like you. Idk there are a lot of possibilities and you really just need to get to the bottom of it before you go on with this relationship. If this happens often and you're not getting any clear answers I would only assume your boyfriend is being disloyal in some way wether it's cheating or having a friend who doesn't want anything to do with you so I personally would just break up with him and cut contact because I don't have the for games like this in my life and you don't have to either.
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I don’t think it’s weird at all he tells him he loves him. Personally, I think we should tell everyone in our lives that we love them more regardless of gender or type of relationship…. I do think it’s weird that they don’t let you over. Does he live far and they only get to visit sometimes? That would be more understandable but still weird. I couldn’t wait to introduce my partner to my gay best friend! Lol
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Her man won’t even allow her to be around when gay best friend is around. It has absolutely nothing to do with him BEING gay. She’s struggling to understand why their friendship isprovate
Why do people think they have an automatic right to be around people when they're with their friends. Maybe he doesn't want his friend to think all he does is see you and not get any time with him himself. Nothing worse than a friend who brings their girlfriend/boyfriend along to absolutely everything. Nothing wrong with couple time and friend time being seperate.When my friend comes over, my OH goes out or upstairs to give us a chance to catch up etc.... and likewise, I don't go socialising with his friends because I appreciate personal time away from my relationship, and so does he.
Either his friend has no boundaries and says offensive things, he’s ashamed of you because you say offensive things or they are messing around behind your back. Either way something is off. If he’s his friend he would want your lives to mix and meet and spend time with friends and family. If your gut is telling you something is off then don’t be with him.
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