Husband doesn’t want my daughter to have relationship with grandfather

I’ve had a strained relationship with my father he has not seen my daughter since she was 3 months old, which was a result of some hurt feelings and miscommunication on both sides. She is now 3 years old and I’m ready to make amends with my father but my husband is not, and does not want our daughter around him ( due to his previous negativity and the hurt feelings he has caused our family over the years). My husband has every right to feel the way he does but How do I navigate this issue when I want to move on and have my father involved back in our lives but my husband won’t allow him at our house or around him or our daughter. I feel this is putting a strain on my marriage and I don’t want to have to choose one or the other. Also to add in pregnant with my second, no one knows yet but another reason I want to make amends.

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Vi

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Then make your own personal amends and leave the kid out of it

mo

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i think you’re more than allowed to make amends for yourself. but it seems like whatever your dad was pretty bad, and you said your husband has a right to not want your kid around him, so that really needs to be a group decision, if you two can’t agree then the baby shouldn’t be around them. everyone doesn’t heal on the same time frame and your husband and child deserve all the time they need, it’s it’s forced it’s not going to be a real genuine apology or acceptance of that apology. i am not on good terms with my dad, and my husband would never be comfortable with our children around him. even if i made amends with my dad i would never expect my husband to just be okay with our children and himself around my dad. it’s just life. and it’s okay. you don’t have to be around or love the same people.