Need advice to move on

So my current relationship is in a bit of a pickle. Me and my current bf had a talk yesterday about our relationship and our current issues. Mine is me trying to move on from my abuser who I was with for 8 years. Long story short he's locked up facing 7-11 years because he almost killed me. There was a lot I wasn't putting together at the time. I was trying to defend him and just wasn't thinking straight but my current partner has been trying to help me see the situation for what it was. I love him for that and in a way he's saving me. I want to move on but everything I see reminds me of my abuser. We had two kids together and the day of the arrest we were making a bunk bed in my house and just being in my house and being so used to him consuming my life he's all I've really ever known. But my partner says if I'm not able to move on from him completely he's going to leave... I get it truthfully. It must be annoying to constantly hear me talk about my ex on a daily basis. I dont want too and I want to move on but I'm not sure how to stop bringing him up when the whole situation is still bugging me. This happened in October of last year. So I guess it's still a fresh wound. I just don't wanna push away someone who I feel is right for me all because I can't fully get over what happened. I told him I didn't wanna get back with him but I don't think he believes me. I'm tired of living my life in fear and being scared. I just wanna move on and be happy buy I don't know what to do.