Am I over reacting

I don’t know if I’m over reacting and acting like a brat. One of my biggest pet peeves is when people say they’ll do something and they don’t do it. I’d appreciate an apology or an explanation even if it’s minimal but that’s just me. Maybe I’m the one lacking communication but I need some advice in my relationship.

I’ve been with my bf since I was 17. Im 28 now. Obviously we were so young back going to college but it’s been 11 years and we still don’t live with eachother

It’s been like a year that my bf says we will start looking and will move in together but it’s just “all talk.” Im ready to discuss this convo in person and I’d love for him to take more initiative because he’s self employed so we’d have to figure out getting a place closer to his job than mine. He said we’d get married through court in December 2022. He said this around Halloween. He never did. Lol he never brought it up again and I felt weird bringing it up at the moment (this is where I think maybe I lack communication) but for me to ask makes it feel like I’m begging to make me a wife.

He’s been saying this for the whole entire year of 2022. Never happened. Again he mentioned this last night via text. We don’t even talk about this in person. When he said this I was sorta being a bitch and said “oh okay you’ve said this several times I don’t even take this seriously anymore” he gets mad and tells me I’m being inconsiderate bc he’s so busy with work and has no time to go to court or look at places. Ok?

Something minimal he did today was he told we would talk at 8pm when I’m off work. My last text to him was at 7:30pm

It’s now 8:30 and he’s posting on Instagram a picture of him having dinner his mom made. Before anyone starts, idc if he’s posting or if he wants to enjoy his dinner but why does he tell me he will call me at 8pm and just leave me on read. No consideration to tell me “babe I’ll call you tomorrow I just want to rest”

Call me crazy and clingy but I would respond to my bf first then post on social media

Please help me. Thoughts? I feel like he’s not a reliable person but I also feel like I’m expecting too much over some small things …

Edit: he called me at 8:36. Couldn’t pick up. I just started cooking dinner instead of waiting. I replied with “hey babe I can’t take your call right now. Started to cook dinner …I was waiting for your call”

No response to that