Do you vent about your relationship

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Do you vent to your friends or family about your partner when you guys argue ? 
I use to with past relationships, but I realized that I don’t like everyone knowing my business. 
My current relationship is the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. But yea of course, we both have made little mistakes to upset each other and had some arguments. I have never vented to anyone about him because I don’t want anyone to know our business.  Sometimes I vent on here to get advice from you ladies instead.  
I found out that my bf talks about me to his one friend and his younger sister. 
That honestly upset me. And it makes me scared to say certain things to him now. And it makes me tiptoe around certain things to avoid any disagreement, but I don’t want to be vented about to his sister. I truly don’t think our relationship is her business. 
I told him how I felt and he told me that he wouldn’t tell his sister or his friend about our relationship anymore. But it’s hard to believe that because I wouldn’t know if he did or not. 
What do you guys think ????

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I mean I’ll vent to my mom when I’m stressed with household chores. My partner is on the spectrum. And doesn’t like change. So I packed up our whole house and unpacked it when we moved. Most household duties are my responsibility as he struggles forming a routine with chores to help. But I’m not bashing him when I speak to her. It’s more so me being overwhelmed getting mad that the laundry can’t do itself.  Feeling like I don’t ever have time for myself etc. My partner does a lot for us aside from Chores. We also do couples therapy. So we are pretty direct when there is some upset between us. 
But I truly don’t believe you should bash your partner over serious things  to anyone. Those issues should be settled between y’all unless the relationship is toxic.  But petty things no.

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Rule number 1 is so not air your dirty laundry to friends and family about your partner because once they have a bad image of them that’s it. They become the bad guy. Can’t fix a bad first impression. You keep the relationship between the two of you. Talk to him. And remember his family will always side with him. Do not think they are your bff. Do not confide in them. They will tell him things you said. Only place I talk about anything is on here. Same thing with other social media. Facebook etc.

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Well me and my husband barely argue. I mean it's like maybe 3 - 4 times a year at most. We get along really really well. But no I keep it between us and so does he.

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I don't think everything should be talked about, but I do think that everyone should have someone to vent to about their relationship if they really need to. ￼I don't think small arguments should be a topic of conversation, but if there's any type of abuse or toxic behavior, that should absolutely be talked about. Everyone is allowed to express themselves in ways that are healthy… ￼but if you express yourself in a way that you don't want anyone outside of the relationship ￼to know about, that's a big problem.￼ If you don't want bad behavior talked about, then don't have bad behavior. ￼When I talk about my partner and their negative behaviors, it's because I'm ready to let that information out and hold myself accountable for being in that type of relationship. I know telling my friends and family about their behavior is going to make them look at them in a negative light, but maybe that's how they need to be looked at. Maybe that's I you need to look at them. So for me, it's holding myself accountable. ￼￼And it's holding my partner accountable for bringing the negativity to the relationship. ￼

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I vent to my very close friends, and I know my bf talks to his friends too. I think its a good way to put things in perspective/ better understand a situation by talking through it. Hopefully his friends/relatives have enough empathy to understand that not everyone is perfect and arguments/disagreements are nature in relationships