Me and my husband has been together 10 years hes indian and im british. I really just need somewhere to talk. I talk to my sister and my mum about problems at home but cus there family they will always side with me and some times i feel is it something ive done wrong but they are biased they will always be on my side and in this particular situation i dont know if im in the wrong.

From past few months now ive been feeling unhappy. It all started with hubby making little comments that i dont do anything and making me feel like im useless. I dont believe that we just had a baby hes 4 months old now and i feel like all i do is work work work. Looking after the home and my daughter and him etc. Im on mertanity leave at the moment but along side being a mum and a wife im also studying fulltime at uni. But sometimes i feel likes hes right do i not do enough? Theres always been as issue when it comes to food in this house as all he eats is indian food so means i have to cook 2 different meals every night which is hard. Especially curries as they are from scratch with a lot of chopping involved. He works so hard providing for us and he does deserve to come home to a hot dinner every night. I know that and i be honest its not every night where i would cook for him but only myself and my daughter because its tiring and hard. But i always let him know and he would buy food from outside. Ive talked about this to him and after 10 years of being together hes okay with it.

But from last few months I don't know why he just makes me feel like im useless and that i dont do nothing. He works from home some days and on thursday i was at uni all day so he had the baby. In evening time he started getting angry saying the baby never let him do anything cus he was crying all day and he lost money. Then again he started accusing me of not doing nothing and started calling me disgusting. I got so angry i threw a glass of water at him and had a big go at him which i usually dont. I usually lock myself in the bathroom and cry. He was very quiet after that and the next day he acted like everything was okay. Which i hate cus he needs to talk about stuff but he doesnt. Then last night i was in no mood obviously to have dinner ready for him but he brought food home for both of us. Then he asked me to make him some rice and i told him we dont have any i thought u knew that and then again he got really angry, and he said hes going india and he packed his suitcase. I dont think he will actually go though. I think it was just a threat at the time though i said go i dont care.

But he has no right to call me disgusting when he was threatening to leave us. I dont know what he wants from me. Im never ginna be that wife like his mum and cook 3 times a day for him. I mean i be honest if he ate english food then i would cus i will just make him what i make myself. Im getting a feeling its cus of this but he needs to remember his mum was a full time housewife. I work and study and keep the house in order.

I cant fault him as a husband hes good to us and hes amazing with the kids. but making me feel useless from past few months is making me really unhappy. I cant make out if actually i dont do enough but at the same time i feel like i do plenty. Anyway if u read this thank you so much.