Conditions for holding the baby

My partner has started to give me conditions for when he can hold the baby. For example, "I cant because i just woke up and haven't smoked yet" or "I'll hold her but let me do x,y,z first" or "I'm tired. Can I do it later" or he will ask me why I need him to hold her and sometimes it's just because I'm a little touched out or had a bad dream and I need to wake up and process a little. (I come from a really abusive home)

Are these conditions reasonable? I'm with baby 24/7 and I just stopped working so I'm a new sahm this month. I love it so much but I do sometimes get overwhelmed and because I have to catch my partner at "just the right time" I'm struggling to feel 100%myself because I wake up with baby, I bathe baby, i feed her, play with her, put her down for her naps. I know he can't always help because he works but am I being unreasonable if I ask him to hold the baby first thing in the morning? This morning I ask if he could take the baby, and he says "why?" Then says he hasn't smoked yet and is very obviously upset/pissed that I asked him to hold her.

What's the deal?

Update:

We just had a MAJOR talk about this. I wrote him a long, honest email (I'm sooo not that confrontational) and told him about my needs. That was two weeks ago. He started holding her more but this week, the conditions started. Are these small victories or do I need to push for more?

Update 2:

Baby is almost a year. I thought he was just nervous but now it seems like he prioritizes his "free time" over mine. He did hold her today while I showered.