I’m no longer with my kids’ dad or even have contact due to him being abusive. He has not seen our kids since 4th of July and hasn’t asked to. However, when we moved out, I suspect he was trying to kidnap them from me to avoid having to pay child support - one because he used a coworker to try to lure me into an isolated environment, and secondly because his family has on MULTIPLE occasions pushed to have visitation with the children, suspiciously ONLY when they were upset about me trying to protect them (like when they found out I had a restraining order filed - which he ALSO found about by stalking) and ONLY alone with them. He also has threatened to kill me over child support and custody. Attempts to try to get the kids stopped in August but my ex continued to try to manipulate/stalk/harass me through catfishing me into mid-December

I want to have a birthday party for my kids in March/April somewhere but I’m slightly paranoid. I’m worried that he could try to show up. I don’t know if I sound crazy, but he’s also used 3rd party a few times to try to get my nudes, to keep tabs on me, to continue to abuse me, etc. So I’m just worried that his sudden radio silence is too good to be true and that he’ll try something again soon. I do have a protection order and full custody, but I also know those are just pieces of papers to a lot of abusers. Especially since our order states that after 2 months, the state will go after him somehow for child support, and I feel like that would cause him to want to lash out at me, especially since they first want to worse his property - which the only property he has is his beloved car - and he’s already at 1 month behind