Stingy bf?

My boyfriend grew up pretty poor and he let me know that he was very money conscious when we started dating.

He’s always bringing up money or the cost of things whenever we go out. I understand wanting save money but he’s made me feel uncomfortable on several occasions.

It’s to the point where I never feel comfortable with him spending money on me or I never choose what I actually want whenever we go out due to being scared that he’ll point out that I picked the more expensive version of an item.

Here some examples:

- he told me that he Lowkey wasn’t looking forward to my birthday cause that meant spending money and he has other things to spend money on. We have a birthday in the same month and I was looking forward to get him something to make him happy.

- he told me that he was worried that he would spend $100 on a gift and I wouldn’t give him something nice. This is understandable but, it hurt

my feelings cause once again my main priority was to make him happy

- Took him out for his birthday and he kept asking me who was paying for our dinner before he decided what he wanted to eat. When I told him that it was me, he then started picking different things of the menu that he wanted. He offered to chip in but never said anything when it was time to pay (which is fine cause I was planning to pay since it’s his birthday)

I understand that financial status growing up often affects a person relationship with money and I am trying my best to be understanding, but I can’t help like feeling like he’s being very excessive.