Hello ladies! I’m so happy to see a Christian based group chat here on <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a>! A little background- I’ve been baptized in the Christian faith as a child but it wasn’t until I was isolated in 2020 that I was fully saved and got a chance to know God. In that time span, I choose to just stay single and wait for the man God had waiting for me.

Towards the middle to end of 2020, I started talking to my current boyfriend. We spoke for two years just through chat and didn’t meet up until May of last year. We are both 20yrs old + growing and practicing Christian’s. Five months into the relationship, I started coming across a bunch of “boundary” videos from my Christian based YouTubers which had me questioning a few things since I never had set any. For example, my man had already gotten used to spending the night or days at my place from time to time since we live no where near each other and we both don’t drive. I tried bringing up some boundaries but since it was already “normalized” in our relationship it wasn’t something he was open too off the bat.

I haven’t brought up any more boundaries since then, however I do feel like sleepovers or living with each other before marriage although we are adults can lead to acts of sin due to sexual temptations. Regrettably without him spending the night or staying with me for a couple of days- we really would be seeing each other less and it would go back to an over the phone relationship because our schedules are too tight. Apart from the staying over boundary I also pounder on the moving in with each other before marriage boundary, touching certain body parts boundary *even if it’s playfully*, watching certain movies or shows boundary *due to the explicit things shown in them*, etc.

Don’t get me wrong, he is a great respectful and loving man, but I was just wondering what your thoughts or advice if any are on this? We are now 10months into the relationship about to hit a year- is it too late to start implementing these boundaries without coming off as controlling or breaking the norm?