The right time to tell a guy you have children?

Question

When is the right time to tell a guy that you're interested in that you have children?

Answer

I personally was a single mom an only date one person after my son was born before I met my husband. The first guy I dated, I had know since right after I got pregnant so he already knew I had a baby. When I met my husband we were introduced through mutual friends so again that was one of the first things they told him about me. The first day I met him, I was actually hanging out with said mutual friend and he happened to live with her and her bf and I had my son with me. I figured there was no point of even going on a date with someone if they weren't ok with me having a child! Needless to say my son and now husband were bonded from the start and I fell in love with my husband even more because of that. Now we've been together 3 yrs, are married and expecting baby#2 and I wouldn't have handled it any other way! My kids come first and they are a big part of who I am. If a guy isn't interested on that, I have no interest in them!

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From my own personal experience...I (still get scolded by the DH about this one) LOL...but I didn't tell him till like our 3rd date! At that point I saw that he was really interested as much as I was into him so I had to share that very important part of my life with him. I figured if I had told him from the get go...I was opening myself up to him to soon and only when I saw he was truly invested in me did I share that! Some of my girlfriends then did not agree but it's not their life it mine & today my DH is out with my son at a Yu-GiOh Tournament while I'm at home studying (well...I will after this)

Answer

Personally, if I were single and dating someone I would tell them right away. If they can't accept my children they can't accept me. They are my world and come before absolutely EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE!! With me comes my children, period point blank. Why would I waste my time and energy or theirs? But that's just my personal opinion, but thankfully i am still with my children's father!

Answer

I think at the moment you are getting serious so that there is no confusion down the line. 
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​I've seen many couples break up because 3 years in He says "I don't want any kids" - and she is heartbroken.

The right time to tell a guy you have children?

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