Anyone Ever Take a Break From Trying?

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We're at 10 months of trying (AF is due Sat and had a bfn this am).  The stress of making sure we BD on the right days, opk testing, waiting for symptoms and then getting bfns is getting to be too much. It could be my pms talking, but I think I want to take a break and just focus on other things for a few months. Has anyone else tried this? Did it make you feel better?

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My DH and I just recently started trying again this year. We had many failed attempts and it was getting really stressful. We decided to take a break without preventing while planning our wedding last year. I figured maybe the wedding plans would take my mind off of things and it would just happen. Of course that didn't work, so now we are moving forward with all the necessary testing and using opks again. This time I am Also taking prenatal vitamins. I feel much more confident this time around. And the best part is that it's fun again. After so many bfn it starts to feel like a chore. I'm glad we took time to focus on other things for awhile!

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We are technically taking a break. We book a trip in November and if I got pregnant this month I wouldn't be able to go. Booking the trip has definitely taken the pressure off! We aren't preventing it but feel relieved and have something to look forward to.

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Me and my hubby took a break a few years ago as we had 3 mc's in a row. It was way too much for us and we stopped trying. We are now on month 3 of trying again & hoping to have a different outcome this time round. It's nice to have a break now & then, even though u don't ever really stop thinking about it. Just maybe relax & see what happens xx

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I'm in the same boat. It's been 10 months for us. I've already found out I'm not ovulating and have been put on Clomid. Just finished my second round and currently in the dreaded TWW! My dr has already referred us to a fertility specialist and we're getting more testing. I'm feeling hopeful about this month because I think I actually ovulated...first time ever! Last month I seriously considered taking a break. I wish I had. This stress is like none other!!!! But at this point I don't feel like I should waste time. I'm waiting to see if AF shows up so I can have an HSG and then correction of my septate uterus. If you feel like you need a break....do it!!!

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Hi Rhonda - my husband and I have been trying off and on for 3 years. It does take a toll, and the stress is unlike any other I've experienced, and that's saying a lot - I'm an attorney! We have taken short breaks due to treatments/surgeries. but we also electively stopped trying at times for 'mental health breaks'.  Yes, it did make me feel much better. It was freeing knowing I was now in control of the outcome. It wasn't a BFP, but I knew what was going to happen, and I didn't drive myself crazy hoping I was preg. Also DH and I were able to reconnect and push the reset button. We had sex for fun, and not just conception. We shared wine and laughed and talked. We did things we loved, and had set aside for this journey. We stopped fighting and just lived in the moment. So yes, it did help us, in so many ways. Now we are able to physically and mentally handle the roller coaster and whatever life brings.

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We are taking a break as we'll because keeping up with everything and temping and charting and then getting a BFN was very stressful to me so we are just gonna go with the flow for a while give me a chance to relax.

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I am kind of taking a break. I have been crazed with temping and peeing on sticks. We are going to just BD every other day and enjoy eah other.

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My fiancé and I started TTC in November, but decided, after one cycle, to take a break until after our wedding. We had sex once around my fertile window in December, and we got a BFP! Unfortunately, it ended in m/c, but I think it was the not trying, becoming more focused on our lives and being less stressed that helped. December was such a good month! We were happy and relaxed. If you're feeling a lot if stress and frustration, taking a break might be a good idea. 
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​I wish I could take my own advice now, though. I've been a woman on a mission since the m/c, and I imagine the added stress is working against me.
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​Best of luck to you!

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Hi Rhonda. I'm in the same boat. AF is due Sunday and if she comes I'm going to stop "trying" so hard and focus my energy on things I love. I truly believe that stressing about getting pg makes it harder in both people! I wish you the best of luck

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