Am I being pathetic?

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My father in law has asked us all to go away on a family holiday in July, me my hubby our little boy, my hubby's brother & his pregnant gf. I know July is away off and I could be pregnant myself by then but I just don't want to be around her....at all. I can't bear it, I can't stand my brother in law mentioning that she is pregnant every 2 minutes and insisting she has the most largest comfortable seat just because she is pregnant - he knows iv suffered multiple mc's and I just feel like he is all really insensitive and doesn't think about how I must be feeling. I wouldn't be so bad if they were a couple who were trying for baby - but they were only together 4 weeks and she announced she was pregnant!! I just feel like it's all a kick in the teeth for me atm & I don't feel like I can face her. Am I being selfish & pathetic? Or do others feel the same? Sorry for the rant lol xx

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Not at all. I would feel so uncomfortable and mad too. You are wise to withhold your tongue in front of the family. Best wishes to you.

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Pay no attention to him, hope their relationship lasts. Lol
​MY friend had an abotion the other day she felt no way telling me knowing my DH and I have been TTC for nearly a year. Stomach that one!!!
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Not at all feel same to be honest. Visiting my Home for Easter where my cousin: 4 th month pregnant, my best friends 10 weeks and 16 weeks and other friend just give a birth to little baby boy. 
​Is hard for me, we are ttc for a year now , we had miscarage in December and from Jabuary we are trying again without any luck... Hard when people saying , at last you can get pregnant, 
​You are not alone !!!

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Yes you are.

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At first I thought yes, but after reading the full story I can completely understand. I was on the opposite side of the story when I was first pregnant. My sister in law had it out for me because she couldn't have any more children because she chose to get her tubes tied at the age of 21. After I've had a miscarriage, it made me understand more. We are only human and it's normal to feel these emotions, especially if your brother in law acts that way towards you. I really hope you do get pregnant because it seems like you would truly appreciate it, and when you do, take full advantage of all aspects of it! :)

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It's understandable on how you are feeling, but they are excited. The same as you would be to if the situation was opposite. They are still in happy mode. Their relationship is still new. So yes they are excited. I'm sure he's not trying to hurt your feelings one bit. Give it time and it will calm down. But don't get to worked up over this.

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Can I just add that I'm not just being jealous & selfish Cus I haven't got my BFP I'm feeling this way Cus iv been ttc for 5 years and had 3mcs which the family know about. Hearing "how come your not pregnant" and "it only took us 1 month" is why I don't want to be around them & wish they could be a bit more sensitive. My brother in law thinks that it happens so easy for everyone even though he has seen everything iv been through over the past 5 years! Thanks for all your support ladies :) xx

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What you're feeling is in my view, not pathetic at all and emotions that many of us feel and go through when we are on this rollercoaster ride of TTC. You're expressing yourself in a forum that's safe and accepting of our rants (helps keep us sane!) and not out in public or around your family. I agree with Laura - treat yourself to a break and if you're finding it hard, take some time out, relax and have some quality time with your hubby ;)

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Totally understand this. When my sis in law announced she was preg my world fell apart. I was expecting it and of course it's great for her but the pain I felt was unbearable. I'm a bit better now but it's still difficult. She's  had the baby now and I'm still getting nowhere. So hard watching everyone around you ttc, get preg and then have their baby and for me not even a sniff of a bfp. 27mnths ttc now. Enjoy a chilled holiday with your hubby. X

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It's completely normal to feel that way. I think you should go and enjoy a vacation. It might be a nice break. Limit your time around them and go do things on your own! Rent a car so you can take off when you guys feel like it and then you don't feel trapped.

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