To wait or not to wait??

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I'm 34 y.o. & just got married, should we wait a year or start trying now??

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I'm the same age so I'd start now, but you really need to do what's right for your unique journey.  Remember fear, anxiety, and apprehension are just feelings that will pass as you take the next steps. We can't let feelings dictate our lives and keep us from our true hearts desire. But if there is a legitimate concern you have, talk it over with your husband, he's really the only one besides you who can help resolve any concerns and you need to know where he's at as well. He needs the feeling that you respect (this is huge for men) him and his input/concerns so he knows you are in this together no matter what you decide. Enjoy the journey. :)

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I totally agree that there is no perfect time. Whenever your baby(ies) come, life will change and there will be some stress, but you will get through it and make it all work because of how much you love your little one(s)!

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After 35, fertility decreases and complications with pregnancy increase. So, if you can afford it financially and emotionally, start now. However, having and caring for a baby can be a stressful experience which may break up a marriage if the relationship isn't strong, so if you think you need some time to build up your relationship, then wait. I don't think 1 year will make much difference in the scheme of things.

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Samantha, I completely understand, I just went thought the same dilemma.   We'd ideally like 2-3kids so we knew we wanted to start soon after getting married (Aug '13) so we discussed starting TTC Aug '14... But the more we talked about it (and I talked with close, trusted friends) we decided, why wait? There is never a "perfect" time to have a baby, but if you are happy, in love, stable enough to support a child, then why not start trying? I've heard among my 30-ish yo friends that on average the process took six months. So if your hubby is on board, start bd'ing! Good luck :)

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If you feel that your ready now to start a family then start now, talk to your husband and talk through if yous both want to start trying now. Goodluck!

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If you feel that you are ready now them why not? And like the lady below said it could take a year for you to conceive. I believe everything happens when and how it's suppose to. So if your blessed with a beautiful baby now or in a year it's what God believed was best for you :)

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Start now why wait? It could take a year you never know

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Correction: I'm 35. :-)

To wait or not to wait??

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