Should I mention it to him?

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Ive been dating this guy for two months. I went over to his place teo nights ago. We were catching up on a show. He gets a texts and replies. I peek and it's a girl. He continues to receive texts. It bothered me so I say to him c'mon it's 12am. Who are you texting? He responds with I have friends with different work schedules. Which doesn't make sense. I was so uncomfortable through the night. So I guess I made him feel antagonized. I wanted him to walk me to my car. He made a big fit and got mad that he ended up not walking me out. He walked into his room and locked the door. The next day he text me I'm still bothered of the whole texting thing. Why couldn't he tell her that he had company over. I wanted to unwind with him. We hardly get to see each other becaus of his schedule. I didn't feel he was al there. ​

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That bothers me too, how he was texting another girl when he should have been putting his attention towards you. I dated this guy who did that a lot, and I was very suspicious. He told me how they were really good friends. I looked at his phone without him knowing and I found out that he was flirting with this girl, after he would say goodnight to me (in person) he would text her good night. They told each other that they missed them, they both said I love you, and he called her "my love." I was so betrayed and I found out that when we had broken up for a month, he had gone to her and slept with her twice. He tried to break it off with her after I found the texts, and she faked a pregnancy. This was years ago, but I could never trust him again and we broke up

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Yes, you deserve an apology, but also examine your own words and actions. Did you go straight to annoyance? I find the best thing is to simply say "hey, I'd love to relax with just you for a bit. Can you reply to your friend later?" 
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​Also consider - how frustrating would it be for you if he eyed every male friend you have with suspicion? Sometimes, a female friend is nothing more than a friend who happens to be female.

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Why is he texting another girl while you're there anyway?

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You shouldn't have to sit back and have him be rude to you. You are a woman not a dog. He shouldn't have locked you out his room (even tho it's his room) just because you confronted him. That's childish. Being in a relationship is a two way street it takes both people to make it work, and you have to have communication. He should be trying to spend time with you because your his girlfriend. If he can't have a clivial conversation then maybe he isn't worth your time or effort. Good luck I hope I've helped in a way and hopefully things will work out!

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You are just dating..so he is not your bf right? 
​His act to go inside his room & look it is very childish..but that depends on how old are you guys..
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​I think he owes you no appology & you can't tell him who to text & what not to do if he is a guy who you are just seeing,& he isn't really your bf

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If he does mind, and it's something I am unwilling to deal with for years and years, I would consider ending the relationship. It's a slippery slope when you start thinking you can control your SO's (or anyone else's) behavior, it ultimately doesn't work, and it ruins the relationship in the process. The only thing you can do is let the other person know how their actions affect you, and see what happens. Good luck! And for the record I would consider your SO's behavior totally rude!

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It's sometimes hard to communicate when you feel hurt in a way that doesn't cause the other person to raise their defenses. If I were in the situation you were in, I would have said, "it hurts me when you spend a lot of time in your phone when we're together because I feel like I'm not as interesting as the person on the other end." Then I would have asked what he thought of that. after a little more discussion I might try to come up with a solution, ie. "when we are together, would you mind turning your phone off or putting it away? I'll do the same so we can focus on each other."

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i've been in this exact situation. i don't know if that girl is really just a friend or not, but i will say that you should definitely trust your instinct. if your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it bothers you, don't ignore it, either talk to him about it or stop dating him.

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I think it's rude for a boyfriend to be texting another girl at odd hours of the night especially in front of his gf. If he had nothing to hide he would show you the conversation. Confront him about it but don't be rude about it!

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Go for it. You are feeling this way for a reason. He should understand that.

Should I mention it to him?

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