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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now. I knew he watched porn but he "stopped" for me. So i really thought he did. Well I've trusted him up to now, we have a wii u and you can get on the Internet on that so i needed on his account and guess what popped up? Porn i feel so broken hearted it feels like he's cheated on me and all i can do is cry..why watch that if he has me? I just don't understand..i guess I'm not good enough

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My husband watches porn and we've been together for 6 years. It's not a big deal. He may have you but do you do what they do in porn? It's like watching a movie but for a guys pervers side lol. It's not a big deal and if your intimidated or hurt by him watching a tv screen then you should work on your self worth and how you feel about your confidence. I don't mean to be rude or anything like that but when I read what you wrote it made me think that you need his attention to feel good about yourself. That's not healthy. You have to have confidence in yourself for you to have healthy relationships and not rely on other people to make you feel important or special.

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I too have been through this. I am not nor will I ever be ok with it so I know where your coming from. I feel it brings nothing good into a relationship. I will say though I doubt it has anything to do with you. Guys have a really hard time giving this up. Studies have shown that for some their brains react to porn just like a crack addicts does to crack. The only thing I can say is try to be honest and tell him that it hurts you. Try to work it out with him. At the same time though know that this is not your fault. You are not inadequate and you can not change him. He's going to have to want to change for himself.

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No offence, but I don't understand how it's a big deal? I've been with my partner for 2 years and I know he watches it and I do as well.. It has nothing to do with your feelings towards your partner. So many females get so offended by it because they think too much into it. If it upsets you, offer to watch it with him? Make some fun out of it. It can actually be the biggest turn on.

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I was right there with you. I told him that I felt like he was cheating on me and after I talked to him he understood and he stopped with one or two slip ups. However, recently things were kinda stagnant in our sex life because I was having cyst and pain down there and it just wasn't happening for us so I sat him down and told him that WE (notice the keyword is WE!) could watch it together to explore and learn a thing or two. It has really helped us het back into the groove of things and we do not watch it often just once in a blue moon. I will say that it took me about 5-6 months to be comfortable with it again. We also watch female friendly and usually I have the ultimate say in what we actually watch so that I know it's nothing crazy or degrading. The female friendly section has some great romantic type of porn, it's less fake and more realistic. Good luck:) the things men put us through lol!

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I seriously think it's stupid if your telling your guy it's ok, it's not. It's a struggle that had been made into "boys will be boys". When really they just need help.

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I can totally relate!!! But let me tell you  NO MAN DOES NOT STRUGGLE WITH THIS! Both me and my husband are Christians ... I used to think that if a guy ever did this to me there was no way we would be together. However in the past couple of years I've really had my eyes opened. It's just too easy, too many temptations... With technology they can look things up quickly and hide it just as fast! Did you know you can even look porn up in Facebook search bar?! It's everywhere!!! Thankfully, I was blessed with a very honest man, he told me three months into dating he struggled with porn... He literally sobbed telling me this! It hurts them too! We've been married for 2 1/2 years now, I've got all kinds of blockers for browsers and on his phone and laptop, (I mostly use Qustodio since it's free) My best advice is to have the talk and don't be be super angry with him, just show him it hurts you. You both then need to work together.

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It not that serious my boyfriend watched porn I don't have a problem with it . But everyone is different and beside Boys will be boys. I rather him watch porn n get his nut off then do it sum place esle with another chiick .  U feel me ?  
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​- but I know how u feel in da beginning of my relationship I use to feel a way to but I realize it's not that biG of a deal .  We been dating for 2. YeaRs now and now engaged since April

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I know this probably isn't the response your looking for but all guys watch porn. Hubby and I have been together for 2 years now and he watches porn on the odd occasion as well. .. It doesn't effect us what so ever.. You would much rather him be watching it on tv then looking else where for it. If it is something that really gets you down though talk to him about it and tell him how u really feel and how it makes you feel.. In a few years you probably won't mind that he watches it. Best of luck x

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I wont tell you its not a big deal if you feel it is we all have our own things that bother us. But I will say in a relationship you realllly have to pick and choose your battles because its going to be things much more worthy of your tears. I have been with my s/o for 7 years. I would LOVE to know only porn consumed his spear time lol.

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Guy will always watch porn. It's nothing personal Hun. It's just them being men. I promise it's most likely nothing to do with him not wanting you or you not being enough for him men just like a little something to watch. It's completely normal. If it bugs you too much talk to him and have him explain to you what is going on. Relax :)!!

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