I feel like infertility is ruining my marriage, my relationships, my life. My husband says to just stop focusing on it and making getting pregnant 'my god', but is it that easy?  Yes I already have a small child, yes he is wonderful. How do you tell your maternal instinct to turn off and stop wanting to procreate?  How do I react when he tells me that he hates trying because he sees it destroying me?  I am completely at a loss I am exhausted, I know my best option is to stop trying for another to save my sanity and my marriage, but how do I do that?  I want someone to do all the thinking and feeling for me. By all means tell me what to do. How do I walk through life and be alright with what I've got and to stop wanting more?