Controlling partner or being silly?

Question

Ok so me and my partner have been together 8 months now im 19 and so is he and he is the love of my life! I could not imagine being with anyone else and i love him with all my heart
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​However  i mentioned to him recently about going for a night out with my friends, yet he is totally agaisnt it!
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​Ive tried reasurring him that i just want to go out for fun but hes so scared somethings going to happen
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​He insists on coming with me but i just want time alone to go out with friends and not have to worry about my partner
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​I enjoy going out with him i would just like to once in a while go out with friends for fun and me time
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​Hes making me choose out of going out with friends or being with him, if i had to choose id obviously choose him but im 19 years old for god sake do i really have to choose? Why cant i have both? 
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​I didnt know that when you get into a relationship you couldnt have fun with friends? 
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​So, what should i do!:(
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​Should i stay or should i go? 
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That sounds like the beginning of a controlling relationship. Just because you are together doesn't mean you can't go out with friends as individuals. It's something you have to think about and decided if you want to stay like that or not.

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Run

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I was in a relationship like that. It started out as you described. Plus he was SO attentive between his jealous outbursts so I felt like he was my everything. It ended with him becoming violent, emotionally abusive, and having to get a restraining order. Not saying that's you, but be careful. Trust is the foundation of any relationship & forced isolation isn't healthy.

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Honestly he's not trusting you in my opinion. My view as a guy makes me feel like he believes your going to party and end up cheating. He needs to give you space honey. Ask if the occasional text to tell him about how it's going is okay. You can compromise with him.

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I was in a relationship that started like that, and the more I gave in the worse it got, I felt sorry for him. After 3 years , and having a hammer held
To my head, I ran away in the middle of the night... Only years after I realised how wrong it was and what real love is...... I couldn't help him, especially when it was a detriment to my own safety and health and happiness ...... Please take care xxxx

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Sounds controlling I was in a relationship just like that at 16! I broke up with him , and it took a while for me to get back to myself again .. I was convinced he acted that way because he loved me . However I'm now married to my best friend the love of my life , my everything and we have a GREAT relationship ! I'm also 19 btw ? just be careful girl ! If he's controlling he could turn abusive ..

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My fiance was the same way at firat but i made it clear to him that i wasnt totally gonna stop hanging out with friends bcuz he didnt like it. I go out maybe once a month with friends he doesnt like it but he deals with it bcuz he doesnt want to lose me, And im not going out all the time. He stopped hanging out with his friends tho, says henonly wants to hang out with me. I never asked him to

Controlling partner or being silly?

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