Ladies what do I do?

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So many of you know that my boyfriend and I split up last cycle whilst I was in my tww. Fortunately AF did arrive and I was not pregnant.. But I'm having a bit of difficulty right now..
​I woke up this morning to find a big bunch of red roses at my door step.. The little note on it says exactly this 
​'Please give me another chance' 
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​I took the flowers in and put them in a vase. Exactly an hour or so later I got a knock on my door. The postman stood there with a package in his hand and said it was for me. I haven't ordered anything but it clearly said my name and address so I signed for it and took it in. When I opened it I found a box full of lots of pregnancy stuff! Like.. For ttc.. 
​There was about 10 ovulation tests, a box of first response pregnant tests, a fertility book called the impatient woman's guide to getting pregnant, it also had a few nappies in there secured with a bow, and some preseed which I used to rant on about to him ages ago when we were together trying to concieve.. There is also a toy thermometer (doesn't work obviously) and a box of fruit ?  It looks like he packaged it all himself and brought everything separately to put in a parcel and sent it to my door? 
​Inside was a little note too saying exactly this 
​'I ask for one more chance to prove to you that I will be the best boyfriend that I can be. I want to be the father to our children and I want to try again. Being without you is as pointless as a pencil with no lead. Please take me back. Please be my wife. Please let me back in so we can try for our own little family again' 
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​Now.. I know it's not the best love letter ever.. But my ex boyfriend is definitely not this type of person. He doesn't show much emotion and is definitely not the type to apologise for anything.. I'm really cautious about taking him back but is this a kind of proposal? He is suggesting we get back together a try for a baby again.. I love him dearly.. And this is the furthest he has ever gone with an apology.. Do I take him back? I'm so confused ladies..

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If he disrespected you enough to cheat I wouldn't take him back. But I'm not the one in the situation. I also know myself and that I would hold that over his head for the rest of our lives.

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I've always found that cheaters have the best, most elaborate and touching heart felt apologies. The thing is, guys who don't cheat don't have to come up with these elaborate romantic apologize bc anything they do (asides from physical or emotional abuse) can be easily forgiven with a quick "I'm sorry, my bad, I shouldn't have yelled at you about leaving the kitchen cupboards open," or some such.
​What I'm trying to say is that a cheater's attempt to win you back with these irresistible apologies are difficult to thwart bc u want it so bad. Don't get caught in the web. Take him back, he ll never respect you bc u did. ( And cheat again) Don't take him back and find somebody who'd never cheat? He ll pine for u for a long time. It's a catch 22, all resulting with u being better without  him. I've taken back many a cheater, and it all followed the same pattern. Good luck!

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I'm sorry but everyone makes mistakes and from what you e said he is trying his very best! 
​That's certainly not the typical chica and petrol station flowers is it! 
​He has gone through a lot of effort and not many guys would do that. 
​At least talk to him. Go out for coffee or a drink so you both know there'll be no yelling and arguing. All very controlled and a good opertunity for you to both talk things through xxx

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Ladies thank you all for your advice, I really appreciate that not a single one of you were harsh towards me for feeling a little confused, you all shared some understanding and I really appreciate it! I think I'll meet him for a coffee to see what he has to say, but I won't be taking him back with a heart beat! I need to allow myself time to make the right decision for me, but I can't thank you ladies enough for the support and advice, I will be taking it all into consideration x

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Thanks for the advice everyone.. The other woman was lying about being pregnant which I found out not long after he told me she was.. I went round to her house and asked her to do a test in front of me (3 on fact which I provided myself) they were all big fat negatives.. Not even a hint of a faint line, but it still doesn't change what he did.. I wouldn't jump straight back into ttc with him anyway but it's very difficult to not take him back because I really did love him.. I just don't know what to do :( it's pretty heartbreaking..

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Hi Poasa, good to have news from you. my advice is if you are ready or able to deal with the fact of him having a child with another woman while Ttc with you. the other woman is pregnant yes?

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Because I never would have met my dh now.

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convince yourself. I was in relationships that EVERY single one of my exes cheated on me. and they never changed. I39m glad I never got serious like marriage and babies, even though it was spoken about

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it Sounds like he cheated on you from the other commenters. if this is So, then I39d say not to take him back. cheaters never change. Not unless they WANT to. you can39t change a man, no matter how much

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What did he do??

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